When this guy im friends w/ benefits with, when he fingers me it seems to hurt and turn me off. But ive had it done before and it feels good. Why is it hurting? and also what can he do to make me have an orgasim w/o me getting turned off when he does it? i need some advice.
2006-12-31 23:58:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 19 and i have had sex once before but this guy said that the guy i lost it to didnt pop my cherry.
2007-01-01 00:19:35 · update #1
While he is fingering you the reason it hurts is because he is being to rough he needs to hold back a little do more soft massaging and in a vibrating circular motion-----other things you can enjoy just start experimenting.
2007-01-01 00:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by KAYBEAR25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Check his grooming habits. unclipped nails. hangnails, etc.
2. Teach him what makes you happy. If you're in this to ***, it sounds like he's going to need some guidance. For your benefit and that of every girl after you, give him some help.
I was pretty unskilled at 19 too, so looking back I can say that my subsequent girlfriends (and present wife) benefitted from some pretty blunt and specific advice from a couple of very wonderful girls along these same lines.
2007-01-01 11:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it turns you off don't let him do it. If he gets mad then he is no friend he is what you call a user. As far as it hurting you it may be because you are dry. You may need some lubrication.
2007-01-01 08:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chillin-it 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he might be too rough
you need to be relaxed and feel safe
you should masturbate more so you know what works for you
then you can direct him so he can please you
you sound young, so I'm not so sure he can bring you to organism with just his fingers. you might be expecting too much. anyway he shouldn't he hurting you. my woman likes it like this: "light, fast top" with my tongue, but hat's her. I'm always amazed that she needs so little penetration, even so little contact with her clit. with sex always be decent to each other and keep your sense of humor. be safe
2007-01-01 08:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by sparetom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bets sex starts in teh mind - get more acquainted with him - more fore play go slow.
ask him to trim and clean his nails.
and if his hands are dry, try some hand lotion.
2007-01-01 08:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his hands are too rough, tell him to use a softer body part..ex. tongue, or umm...you can figure it out. Good Luck and Happy New Year!!
2007-01-01 08:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Circular movements, then he also needs to nuzzle your teats. Then, well its either him or another.
2007-01-01 08:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by spud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he doesnt seen 2 be giving much benefit...
2007-01-01 08:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Yasi D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he clip his nails
2007-01-01 08:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hot cherry,
Listen let me work this out for you... I'll check it all out and make it feel better... coochie coochie coo.
2007-01-01 08:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by Champ 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋