I have always been shy, growing up. I also have low self steam. I was always unhappy with my lthe way I look. Im told Im cute and a lot of guys say Im pretty. But being with my ex killed all my steam. I don't smile because I don't have perfect teeth. And people perceive as being a b__tch. It hurts me, specially because I have a little girl that adores me and is so outgoing.
2006-12-31 23:38:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-31 23:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. When your shy or suffer from mild anxiety people think you're a snob. After dealing w/ this prob for "too many years" I found an anti-anxiety/depressant medication that worked for me. I'm not saying that medication is for everyone, but w/ my Dr.'s help I tried a couple different meds and finally found the right one for me. I tried Zoloft (Zoloft works for a lot of people I know) first and that didn't really have any effect. Then I tried Paxil and it has made such a difference, I can't even tell you (though let me warn you, some people suffer from decreased sex drive from some of these non-narcotic types of "anti" meds, luckily for me I don't). Now I have 99% less anxiety and have no problem looking people right in the eye and talking to them. It's really made a huge difference in my life. I have more confidence in everything I do especially in social situations and when I'm around strangers. Like I said medication was the right option for me, it may not be for you. You could also try seeing a shrink, meditation and a I'm sure a bunch of other things. Best of luck, hope this helped. You sound very sweet.
2007-01-01 00:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to do it. Sounds like some counseling would help. And, start truly listening to those around you. You mentioned that people tell you that you are cute and pretty. Sounds like you do not take them for their word.
Also, most people's smiles are not perfect. Mine is not. Most of us cannot afford the work that celebrities get. A smile is always beautiful. Try it more often.
Also, you have a little girl who adores you, enjoy it. You must be doing something right if she adores you as you say. Raising a child is very hard, especially on your own. That is itself is something that should make you proud and give you confidence.
Above all, just have fun, and be nice to people, it is likely that it will be reciprocated.
2006-12-31 23:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was younger. But all of I have to say is this, why should you be shy in the first place?
Why be unhappy with how you look? You don't have to be a supermodel just to feel confident about them. Everyone has something to be proud of and something to be nervous about as well. It's balance. Just focus on the good things.
And for your teeth, it doesn't matter. Just smile. It isn't about whether you have nice teeth or not, what matters is that you are happy.
And if they perceive you as so, who do cares? Just be yourself and be comfortable with who you are. If you feel insecure, ask the people directly why they call you that. Think well about their reasons and listen - this can help you be a better person. And besides, you cannot please everybody.
Sweetie, the key to confidence is to believe in yourself and be happy. Just live your life well and do your best in whatever. Pray, because God loves you. Everything that He creates is beautiful - and so are you. He loves you and bring your worries to Him. He shall console you. And also, your daughter loves you so much for who you are. Isn't that enough to let you love yourself as well?
2007-01-01 00:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Candy Sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more you hang around people the more you will get used to it. As for not having perfect teeth i woudnt worry about it. At the end of the day nobody is perfect. Usually people that have always something to sat about someone else usually have probelms of there own.
2006-12-31 23:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "ENJOY YOURSELF".
You should start enjoying little things in life which will turn out to be of great pleasure for you like whatever you are doing just try to enjoy it. You will feel relaxed automatically.
If you like to take a walk, go take a walk.Take your daughter with you. Do whatever you enjoy doing and dont worry about the rest.
2007-01-01 02:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Braveheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice...that's all I can tell you. Try to be open and approachable. I feel the same way, sometimes I think people who don't know me don't like me...but people who have taken the time to know me love me!...Part of my New Year resolution is to be more open and approachable. To be less introverted. Maybe you can try the same! This is a new year! Good Luck!
2006-12-31 23:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should consider counselling. and the reason why you have low self esteem. you need to be strong for your daughter and ensure she doesnt grow up with your hang ups. try looking at life through your childs eyes
2006-12-31 23:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your self very happy, spend more time with your daughter and forget men for awhile. But to answer your question: HAVE CONFIDENCE!!!
2006-12-31 23:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Peter R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word: alcohol. Well really you should only do that at parties though.
2006-12-31 23:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋