Does anyone have any answers for Opposite defiant disorder?

Question

I think my sin has this, although not diagnosed at present, he seems to be displaying all the characteristics...Today for example, he told his friend to shut the f%*& up, and tied the dog to his green machine as he sped down the road and skidded, breaking her toenails. There was no remorse. Please help, I feel I am lsong control of him and he's only 8! I am thinking of getting a psych evaluation, but not a lot isknown about this disorder here. Any ideas?

Answer 1

if you are in australia there is plenty known of this disorder... it doesnt get as much press as add and adhd etc but is well recognised.

a psych's diagnosis is essential....

it souns very much like your son suffers from a lack of empathy for others.... my son was just like that.... it is not ODD that causes a lack of empathy.... but there are a lot of conditions that do... which is why you really need an excellent child psychiatrit to properly evaluate your son....

empthay does NOT come naturally to everyone... however they can learn to be more empathic through their intellect... they need to learn to be empathic..

anyway if you want to you can message me through my profile here.... just click on my name and I will be ahppy to chat some more. about this...

Oh and much to the dismay of the advocates of spanking.... it wnt work..... absolutely will NOT work..... it will only make his behaviour worse and cause him to be more decietful in his behaviour....

AND despite the claims of others it is not anything you or other family members do or dont do that cause these conditions.....

think about life a few decades ago..... boys like your son were highly prized members of the family.... they had loads of energy and went out trapping or shooting rabbits and other animals to provide food for the family... yes even at 8 or 9...they would skin and gut them and bring them home for mum to cook.... okay so in this day and age it sounds gorey... but honestly the very characteristics we see as sooooo negative today were once prized amongst our boys..... boys needed to be strong and resilient and needed to stand up for themselves with other kids.... so really boys havent changed a bit.... but society has..... talk to some elderly people you know who lived in the country during child hood ask them about kids they knew who went hunting and trapping...

Answer 2

Oppositional defiant disorder: A disruptive behavior disorder of childhood that is characterized by undue hostility, stubbornness, strong temper, belligerence, spitefulness, and self righteousnes.

This disorder is much more extreme than they typical childhood or adolescent rebelliousness, and it is more than a "phase."

Youths with this disorder repeatedly lose their temper, argue, refuse to do what they are told, and deliberately annoy other people. They are touchy, resentful, belligerent, spiteful, and self righteous. Rather than seeing themselves as the cause of their problems, they blame others or see themselves as victims.

Their disorder interferes with school and social relationships. Typically this disorder is evident between ages 8 and 12.

In some cases childern with this disoder develops conduct disorder. However, many childern with oppositional defiant disorder "grow out of " the disorder by the time they reach adolescencs as long as they do not have another disorder such as ADHD.

Diagnostic Features:
Individuals withe this condition experience significan impairment because of their pattern of negitive, hostile, and defiant behavior. This pattern last at least 6 months, during which they show four or more of the following criteria

Often lose temper
often argue with adults
Often actively defy or refuse to comply with adults requests or rules
Often deliberately annoy others
Often blame others for their mistakes or misbehavior
Are easily annoyed by others
Are often angry and resentful
Are oftne spiteul or vindictive

If your worried it woudn't hurt to have an evaluation done on him.

Answer 3

First of all, I know I'm not a guy but I'm gonna answer anyways. It really depends on the type of guy. But yeah a lot of guys like innocent girls, and some like dumb girls who pretend the have a brain of a 5 yr old. But most guys aren't usually attracted to the type of girl who "pretends" to be dumb and innocent for an actual relationship since I could understand that they would easily get bored with that kind of girl since she acts like she doesn't know anything. And the guys ur talking about probably only give her that kind of attention when she's around becuz they know they can easily use her and then dump her. Sooo yeah

Answer 4

Oppositional Defiance Disorder is a mental illness characterized by an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior.
When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own feelings.
In its basic form, Oppositional Defiance Disorder has specific criteria, according to the DSM-IV, the official book of all mental illnesses. The defiance must interfere with the child’s ability to function, first of all, either in school, home, or the community. Secondly, the defiance cannot be happening just because of another problem, such as depression, anxiety, or the more serious Conduct Disorder. Third, the child’s problem behaviors have been happening for at least six months. In these last six months, at least FOUR of the following eight problems have been happening most every day, or almost all the time:

~losing temper
~arguing with adults
~refusing to follow the rules
~Deliberately annoying people
~Blaming others
~Easily annoyed
~Angry and resentful
~Spiteful or even revengeful

If the child meets at least four of this criteria, and the rest described above, then he or she technically meets the definition of Oppositionally Defiant.

Treatment
In a clinical setting, typical treatment begins with a careful assessment. Assessment requires that a professional therapist, first of all, take a psychological history and develop a family genogram. That’s a sort of picture of the family, like a family tree, that helps put relationships and resources into perspective. Afterward, the therapist asks questions and listens to the parent and child describe what is going on with the child. This is known as the presenting problem. Experienced therapists will be interested in exceptions to the problem, or times when the child is not defiant, and why that may be. There will also be questions about parenting style, starting back when the child was a baby, as well as school, typical family schedules and routines, and ways that conflict is managed. The clinician will try to rule out another mental illness first, in order to focus the right amount of energy and direction on treating the defiance. Other questions will help to fill in the background necessary to get started. This initial assessment might take about 30 minutes, but is often longer.
The next step is to lay out a treatment plan. This might take a couple of sessions. There are several effective and research-proven ways to treat defiance, but the most effective and research-driven technique is a combination of Parent Management Training and an individualized Behavioral Modification Plan. Although each family is treated uniquely, there are certain qualities to this approach that are the same. With Parent Management Training, most of the energy and work with the therapist is directed at the parents, emphasizing new ways to manage the child. The Behavioral Modification Plan will outline rules of the home and society. It will also include rewards the child can earn for following the rules, and consequences associated with breaking the rules. In those consequences, there will be specific steps to follow to make sure the child is held accountable, learns from mistakes, and is ultimately successful.
Eventually, there will be progress, until the child understands that following the rules is a necessary part of life. Although it is possible to complete this treatment program alone, success is almost always more likely with the help and close support of a professional clinician experienced in the use of Parent Management Training and behavioral modification. Typical treatment of moderate to severe defiance requires four to five months. Several visits are usually necessary to get background and rule out other concerns, explain the process, answer questions, and get ready. At least one visit is necessary to develop and practice the Behavioral Modification Plan. The intensive treatment that follows usually involves two or three weeks in itself. The “maintenance phase” afterward can last from a month or two to six months, although most families are very happy with the results within six weeks, and termination, the final phase, is just one visit.here is a link to a website with resources on O.D.D. among other disorders~

http://www.conductdisorders.com/

here are a few ideas on how to deal with your opposionally defiant child:
~Always build on the positives, give the child praise and positive reinforcement when he shows flexibility or cooperation.
~Take a time‑out or break if you are about to make the conflict with your child worse, not better. This is good modeling for your child.
~Support your child if he decides to take a time‑out to prevent overreacting.
~Pick your battles. Since the child with ODD has trouble avoiding power struggles, prioritize the things you want your child to do. If you give your child a time‑out in his room for misbehavior, don't add time for arguing. Say "your time will start when you go to your room."
~Set up reasonable, age appropriate limits with consequences that can be enforced consistently.
~Maintain interests other than your child with ODD, so that managing your child doesn't take all your time and energy.
~Try to work with and obtain support from the other adults (teachers, coaches, and spouse) dealing with your child.
~Manage your own stress with exercise and relaxation.
~Use respite care as needed.

http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/74.cfm

http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/mentalhealth/chapter3/sec6.html

http://www.aacap.org/publications/factsfam/72.htm

http://www.webmd.com/content/article/60/67118.htm

http://www.psychologynet.org/defiant.html

Answer 5

Teenagers are often diagnose as having ODD. It is a catch all to explain bad behavior. As a result it has become unclear as to what it really is. Maybe we should just label all teens as being affected by the condition to save time...then medicate them until they can outgrow it for the sake of us parents.

Answer 6

HE NEEDS A SPANKING and that is it in a nutshell...believe me, he would stop his cruel behavior...this is where the Government is mass producing rude, uncontrollable kids, because they are forcing you to 'spare the rod and spoil the child'...too bad, he needs to be disciplined, to learn self control and respect for animals and others...I also feel something is NOT right in your home for his aggressive nature...what are you and your wife/husband doing wrong or to him?....you all need God and Jesus in your lives and get straightened out...