Relationship problems?

Question

I have been with my fiance for 4 years, but for the last 6 months i have been getting anoyed at him
he saids he loves me , and that i am beautifull etc all the time, and yes i like it and appercate it but its get anoying it maks me want to snap sometimes
and every time i kiss him, i feel notted inside, and lost for breath so i dont like kissing that much.
is something wrong?
or is this normal?

Answer 1

Hiya,

I've been with my fiance for 6 years (engaged for 2) and have been with him since i was 14 (now 20, he's 23)
the key to making a long-term relationship work is to give each other time and room to grow especially at your age (i know ive been there!) you'll both be starting your life, going down different paths

If your feelings for each other are really strong & your both really in love you can work things out, my fiance let me do my thing first, i went to college got the qualifications i needed to start a career, whilst he worked and saved for a house and pretty car etc, now im working towards my dream job, whilst he's still young enough to start his, the skills and experience he gained from his job whilst i was at college really helped towards his job (hes in the MDP)

Its all about give & take and all relationships go through a rough patch. You'll always get moments in your relationship where you want to kill your other half!

You need to give yourself a day to relax and chill and forget about your worries, then the following day really evaluate your relationship, are you really happy? is it what you really want? do you want to be with this fella when your wrinkly and old? Do you want to share every exciting moment in your life with him? Does he make you happy?

It may be that your just growing out of each other, its perfectly normal and happens to a lot of relationships! You need to think long and hard about what you want, sometimes all you need is a good argument to clear the air!

Dont make any hasty decisions though as you may regret it, take your time! We all get like this at times honey! sit him down and have a proper chat with him about your relationship.

take care x

Answer 2

I think there is something very wrong if you do not like kissing your fiance. Maybe you are too comfortable with each other you need some excitement. Perhaps you could try going away for weekends and doing something completely different together e.g. a log cabin in the Scottish Highlands or jumping out of a Hot Air Balloon. You need to bring back the romance, remember why you got engaged in the first place. And don't forget to talk, talk, talk to each other.....and listen to each other.

Answer 3

think you maybe spending a bit too much time with him.
my boyfriend of 3 years is the same.
it got to the point in october when i said look i am busy all week so you cant see me.
i made plans with friends everyday that week.

it wasnt as bad after that.

try doing that. you can still talk on the phone just dont see him.
go and stay with family or friends if you live with him.

if you still feel the same after the week away from each other then maybe you are falling out of love with him and its upto you what you do about that.
leave him or try to get the love back.

Answer 4

Yes this is normal, you are almost married. When you actually start to vomit you are married by law in most states. Hahahaha.
Sorry I couldn't resist the bad joke. No, this is NOT normal. There are some very serious issues going on here. You need to understand what they are or you are going to be miserable for a very long, long time. I highly recommend counseling. If you find a good counselor it can change your life very significantly for the better. Good luck.

Answer 5

You could be having buyer's remorse.
You know that feeling you get when after you buy something you worry if you made the right decision?
You have a deadline to get married and now you are thinking about what you will be giving up!
Your freedom, girlfriends, other guys etc. that's enough to make you lose your breath!
You need to think about what you want.
Don't rush into anything, take your time.

Answer 6

You never mentioned feeling any love for him ... I suspect you're doubting your feelings for him and his "over the top" feelings for you feels sort of guilty. In most relationships after years of being together the little things stop being said ... and we wonder why and want to hear it ...

I think you have to take a look at what you're truly after in the end, and after 4 years if his saying you're beautiful and I love you makes you not want to be with him and you can't talk it out then you probably have lost that loving feeling for him.

good luck with what you decide, but I'd hold off on the wedding date for now

Answer 7

of course somethings wrong. people like him who just go on and on will get on your nerves i.e. i love you, your beautiful if someone kept saying that as often as you say he says it anyone would get pissed off but on the other hand hes just showing he appreciates and loves you i could almost gurantee if you told him to cut down on the lovey stuff you would soon want it back if him complimenting you really does get on your nerves tell him youve been together 4 years or somthin like that so you should be able to tell him pretty much anything P.S. ask yourself is he boring ? Do you still love him ? I dont get you, you have something most people would kill for and your just ungrateful

Answer 8

hmmm..
I think I need to know more details to give you an honest answer, dont know when the wedding its suppoused to be but my guess its you both might be stressed for that, or at least nervous, even if you ask yourself and think everything its ok, there might be a part of you that its afraid of the forever thing, wich is normal, all couples goes through that when they start or are in a commitment, take your time, breath, talk with him and your best friends, take a weekend off, just try to relax .. youll be fine.

Answer 9

I'm like that too - I tell my honey I love her all the time and thath she's beautiful know why?

Cause that's the truth I love her and adore her so my much... maybe that's the same with your fiancé, he just wants to show you how much he loves and cares for you...

but if it gets really annoying, tell him that but in a good way so you dont hurt his feelings ;)

and if you don't love him - maybe he is to good for you

Answer 10

are you communicating properly? are you being open...is there something in particular that is bothering you about him...i just answered another question before and suggested: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

it's a great book...i communicate with people in a completely different manner now...it really opened my eyes to how people perceive things other people say and do. i'm also doing communication and cultural studies at uni so it kinda helps.

I got that way with a guy i really liked once...he did things that annoyed me and i never picked him up on and so i just got angrier.