Lately a friend of mine has really been putting the moves on me -- I can tell because his attitude toward me is totally different from what it used to be. I think he's a pretty nice guy and he treats me very well. However, he's not really my type -- I'm religious, don't drink much, and intend to save sex for my husband. I'm usually attracted to sappy sweet religious types who have a real appreciation for the beauty of pure maths, philosophy, and poetry. This guy isn't religious, is a math major but isn't far enough along to know if he likes pure math, drinks, plays rugby, and isn't a virgin.
Is it best for us to just stay friends, or should I let him carry on a little longer? I've never had a very deep conversation with him so I don't know him extremely well. On the other hand, I don't want to lead him on and waste his time. I'm also concerned about his not being a virgin, and what kinds of tension that could bring to a relationship -- and whether it could destroy what we have now.
2006-12-31 22:30:39 · 14 answers · asked by Charlotte R. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you can give him a chance only if you can accept him as he is ..I mean you must know not all the people think alike but they can get along well if they try to understand each other ..You can let him go a bit farther but just in the case to let him know that you are very religious and have some beliefs which need to be respected by him ( like staying a virgin ).
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2016-10-19 07:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay it all on the table..... tell him Exactly how you feel and if he cant deal with that then its just not ment to be.... your religious... have faith that Mr.Right will come around if this isn't him in disguise..... If you want to have a deep conversation with him then you should probably do that before you tell him BUT tell him QUICKLY after because a guy will ALWAYS believe that the conversation is just the beginning (odds are at least .. I should know im a guy).
2007-01-02 12:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by MENTALLY UNSTABLE MAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Itz up 2 u, dependin on how u feel towards him. I dont think u should hav a relationship with him cauze it will just destroy ur fwendship now.
As for the virgin thing, he is gonna want to hav sex with u but maybe if he likes u enough he will respect u and not ask. Im not 2 sure wat u can do about that cauze i dont plan to wait b4 i am marryed b4 i hav sex so cant help u there.
Get to kno him first if u do end up datin him then first of explain ur feelings about bein a virgin.
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2006-12-31 22:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by !XxXDevil'sRejectXxXCatLover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should let him think he's getting anywhere if he really isn't, because eventually, he'll figure it out (He seems smart enough...) and when that happens, it'll probably hurt (if not destroy) what you have now and also hurt a lot more than just explaining how you feel to him now. If he's a true friend, then he'll understand.
2006-12-31 22:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at this logically. You see him for what he could potentially be. You are not happy with what he is. Men never really change. We are what we are. Eventually the novelty of any relationship wears off and you resort to being the person who you were all along.
Your best bet is too find someone who is as you described for your ideal mate.
Of course, matters of the heart are never thought of logically, that's why our divorce rate is at nightmare proportions.
2006-12-31 22:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could give him a chance. Just be sure to explain to him that you're saving your virginity for marriage. Make sure you make your expectations from this relationship clear, make sure he understands what your boundaries are. I don't see why him not being a virgin has to do with anything.
2006-12-31 22:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you dont love/like him that much. When you are in love, you dont have questions on mind, you just enjoy the feeling of being in love. Guess it is better for you to stay just friends. There are many males on earth.
2006-12-31 22:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by sj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does anyone really now what their type is? I know from past relationship I needed to change my type and I am happier then I have ever been. Sometimes you just have to take a chance.
2007-01-01 00:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have too many reservations, and I don't think you respect those things about him that don't match what you want. I think you think he doesn't measure up.
Do him a favor and just stay friends.
2006-12-31 22:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋