whats wrong with loving someone and sharing your life with him ? why do religions have to come between love and create barriers? to me the word marraige means only 1 thing. an official paper, thats all.
(i have been there once and done it all, and never believe in bits of paper ever again. )
2006-12-31 22:29:54 · 37 answers · asked by exmuslimah 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God says so.
2006-12-31 22:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cristina 4 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Depends what religion ;-)
All the sin talk in religion is ridiculous. Many religions were built on the sin of widespread murder! Original texts have been altered over the years. Nothing adds up anymore, or is particularly relevant. It is religion that has been holding the world back from salvation, as being religious does not necessarily mean someone is spiritual, or is a good person for that matter.
Think how much money, how much land the Church has. Can you see them sharing it with the sick, the homeless, the humble? The Church has enough money and power to have massive influence on the situation in Africa. To promote peace. So where are they?
It may sound strong, but religion has become a plague. People either take holy texts too literally or believe in nothing at all. Where is the love? The compassion? Surely it is our love and compassion that it supposed to separate us as humanity from inanimate objects!
Love your boyfriend. Love all living creatures. Lead a fulfilling happy life and love yourself :-) Read up on as many holy texts as you can find and the bottom line will always be: be a good person and love thy neighbour.
2006-12-31 22:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I will take the middle ground and address this problem on the terms of your beliefs.
It may be a sin, but everyone sins anyway. That's what Jesus died for. You are human.
However.. I sense great distress in you about this and deep internal conflict. Like you feel lied to and cheated by something that was supposed to guide you towards happiness.
If my analysis is accurate, I encourage you to do what I did and re-evaluate the nature of your relationship with God. Stop reading books and asking priests and start looking for your own answers. Start asking God yourself.
There are many, many different sects of Christianity that all say very different things. The only thing they all seem to agree on is that Jesus died for you and is your path to redemption. On the other points, they cannot all be right. I think God is a pretty understanding being and wouldn't blame you for not knowing who to believe and choosing to believe in yourself above any of these Churches of Man's creation.
I believe it is they who drive the barriers that you are struggling with. I cannot imagine a loving God who would do such things. There is much that can be questioned and if you are unhappy, you have good reason to question.
But I am not a Christian, myself.
My thoughts are with you, dear.
2006-12-31 22:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by socialdeevolution 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because an intimate relationship that does not involve a (more or less) binding commitment disturbs the family dynamic, sometimes in dramatic ways. People today choose mates based on compatibility, and they determine compatibility before making a commitment. The problem is, down the road, the two of you will change, and you will not feel that same compatibility. We call this "falling out of love." That will create psychological problems, especially for your children (when and if you have any). It is better to approach marriage with the understanding that it is a commitment, and takes precedence over simple compatibility. That creates a stable relationship and functional family dynamic for parents and children.
'Sin' means falling short of an ideal. While intimacy before marriage may not screw up your lives beyond repair, it is still falling short of the ideal domestic model. That is why it is sin. Will it send you to hell? No. Does it guarantee that you will have the problems that I just described? No.
2006-12-31 22:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by NONAME 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The reason behind this is that 'sex' in particular in these relationships was banned because it spreads hatred between people. Also, when you are married you know who got you pregnant from, and stop diseases such as AIDS from spreading. In additon, these relationships cause many disasters throughout everyone no matter how. God orders us to marry and produce families and peace and life on this earth, and not to be tricked by the production of a certain company that invented these false traditions. It's all a matter of patience, for the after-life is much more longer than the first life. Be patient, Be faithful to God, Pray to Him and seek Him only. God bless you.
2006-12-31 22:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Shark_Tooth_90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage means much more than a piece of paper. It means a mutual respect and love that has brought you before God, friends and family to share in the union of two individuals who have chosen to become one. Intimacy is a beautiful thing that was meant to be shared by two people who love each other and have committed themselves to only each other. What happens if you and your boyfriend split up, then you just move on to the next intimate relationship with someone else.Oh, I am sure you can justify it with yourself but will you be able to justify it to God? As far as the rest of us ordinary people on earth...why ask if we care? What you do in your own home is your own business. We all are sinners so it is not like we can logically call you out as an adulterous person. That's between you and God.
2006-12-31 22:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know i understand what you are saying, however God makes the rules and that is what the bible says. Fortunately though, we have a forgiving God (thanks to Jesus's sacrifice) so if and when you ever get to the stage where you feel that God could be right and you wrong - tell Him you are sorry and you will be immediately forgiven.
From my past experience of talking with friends and family about it though and also from your question you seem already convinced then i would have to think you wont listen to those of us who say this.
It is so frustrating as a person who has realised the truth about God and his rules because i know that i know God is right.
And the funny thing is - His rules are for our benefit anyway. Its just that people who do not believe in Him and follow His ways do not see this. Its not until you get the revelation yourself.
The best thing to do - pray about it. Talk to God and see what answer you get.
2006-12-31 22:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being together is a unit and you become one. Sharing a relationship is not the problem but let us think what comes out of that if we are not married and marriage is sacred although there are many out there that do not take marriage seriously and they divorce, in the bible it talks about marriage as being sacred and in a moral sense it is also about taking care of the body God has given you. Let us think about the consequences of sleeping with multiple people while this question really is about you have an intimate relationship, Catholics believe in marriage as sacred and that you should only share intamacy with your marriage partner i hope this helps a bit.
2006-12-31 23:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by jessicatemple1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marrage is important that all relitives come
when all are cathered it confirms the genetic combination,
ensures or rather enhanses awarness of possable negative genetical complications
all the experts are able to eyeball and speculate on the mating and have a party too
or revenge if many wedding reports are to be believed
love is fine but breeders need the papers and wedding photo ,just to have the feedback ,or photographic proof ,and medical records.
then theres the legal aspect ,and the legal union /mergers of the family decendants[offspring]
its only a paper but youve got to swear to god himself
[despite the bible saying let thy yes be yes /not to take oath]
well your adult but parties are great whatever the reason and white looks so good on a woman..
honey moons are supposed to be memorable too apparently.
2006-12-31 23:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can do it with a clean slate than by all means go ahead that is between you and GOD you make up your own mind in this life besides if he really wants to be with you and not treat you as a sex toy than he would marry you show you that he is totally committed to you for life that is what a marriage is all about not some paper with ink on it do it though it is adultery and fornication a direct violation to the LAW IE THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY go ahead make your own bed you have to sleep in it are you a christian if so be wise to not do those things because when you sleep with someone you are joining yourself with the other and since GOD is with in us then we join him to that person but do as you wish no one can tell you different any way
2006-12-31 23:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by THE WAR WRENCH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a sin if it is not of faith. You just have to decide what authority you defer to. Will you believe God or will you decide for yourself what is right or wrong? And if loving someone means you can be intimate with them, then there would be no limit to the number of intimate partners a person has. That means if your boyfriend loves your sister too (or your best friend, your aunt, etc.), he can be shagging them while you're out buying him his birthday present. How could it be wrong if he loves them?
2006-12-31 22:42:02 · answer #11 · answered by celebduath 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋