okay here's the deal...i am a 28 year old responsible adult who lives with my room-mate on my parents property in a single wide trailer. i pay the bills and such and my roomie helps out where she can with the house work. i don't ask my parents for money or anything at all. i have a younger sister who is the rebel of our family. she constantly gets her way! i work for my parents on our farm as well as maintain a full time nite shift job. i have recently started seeing this guy who lives an hour an half away from me. his truck isn't running rite now and he's working on it. i trust him because he hasn't given me reason not to. it's been nearly a month since we were last together (not that way! but you know what i mean). neways...i asked mom last nite about taking a few days when i get off for 7 days to go see him. well she said something along the lines of i don't think he's worth seeing. i asked her what she meant and she told me that because he doesn't come to see me.wat do i do?
2006-12-31 21:54:56 · 11 answers · asked by country_girlz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the only reason i ask to go see him is out of respect for my parents. i make sure there is going to be enough help there on the farm for the work to be done that day.
2006-12-31 22:04:07 · update #1
I know you were trying to respect your parents but you are 28 you need a life of your own and should not have to ask for permission.
2006-12-31 22:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I respect you for showing so much respect to your parents by making sure they have enough help on the farm while you go away for a few days but at the same time you are 28 and it sounds like your mothers still trying to make your decisions for you. But then again I'd think if the guy really wanted to see you he'd find a way to do this. I mean a month is a long time to be working on his truck. Either he doesn't know how to fix it or hasn't the money to fix whats wrong. But still I'm taking it he's old enough where he could surely find a way to see you if he wanted to. good luck on whatever you decide to do. ;o)
2007-01-01 09:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you are a 28 year old responsible adult. You can make your own decisions.
Let your mother know that you appreciate her concern, but you will look out for yourself as far as a relationship goes. Ask your mother specifically about your job and how much time you can take off. Keep the boyfriend and your earned vacation time, two separate issues.
2007-01-01 06:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are a 28 year old responsible adult, then be an adult. You gave your mother the utmost respect in that you requested the time off and gave her an honest answer as to where you were going. 28 is due time to cut the apron strings, which your mother needs to let go. You have to live your life and while many mistakes you will make and many comments your mother will tongue, it is you who has to walk that path. Be careful and enjoy. God Bless.
2007-01-09 04:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound alot like me except the bf problem I am a cotton farmer and have angus cattle but I work an night shift job because well if you grew up on the farm you know why. I dont know if he is worth it. He doesnt sound like he is on your level and isnt willing or able to put in as much to the relationship as you are. I have no idea where you are from but i wish a girl like you was here in SC. I would love to hear back from you it sounds like you are a girl worth getting to know even just as friends. macinsc20@yahoo
2007-01-01 06:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend, one that has enough money to come visit you. Always listen to you mom, we know a whole lot more than we are giving credit for. I think the guy has had plenty of time to fix his truck, if not he should've. How does he get to work? bum rides? is this the kind of guy you want in your life. Get you one who can take care of you.
2007-01-08 21:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by GrannyTazzyManic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and go see him and dont worry about what anyone else thinks. That was nice of you to ask your parents first so you didnt leave them without extra help at your farm.
2007-01-01 11:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could find a ride or take a cab. Who cares if it cost money if he really wanted to see you he would find a way. Mother are always right.
2007-01-01 10:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe a word of it.. some guys r really of the shy sort.. who wont budge an inch into ur 'territory'... it takes some time for the guys.... so go ahead...
2007-01-01 06:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by rufiboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you wanna see him he's like one of your best friends and that your not gonna be making babies lol .. and yea tell the truth and that you can do everything your not gonna die and all that :P
have fun xx
2007-01-01 06:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋