My guy admits he was involved in cyber sex.its been happening for a long time..he doesnt say how long..but nothing less than 6-7 months. our relationship is 4 yrs old,and has been a loving one,mostly.He says what he did was stupid &childish(!) and that im in no way to blame.He says it'll never happen again(but thats what he said 6 months back,when i suspected this for the first time,but i didnt know what exactly was happening that time and we really didnt talk bout it so much then). I know he loves me,and he doesnt feel anything for his 'chat mates'. But i dont trust him now.I cant handle this but its difficult to just let him go and ending all that we've had for such a long time. Should i give him another chance? is there any way i'll ever be able to regain my trust in him? most importantly,can any guy tell me why he did this though he still loves me,n im keeping him happy in every way;any idea?
2006-12-31 20:57:00 · 13 answers · asked by tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, reality will tell you that you have a choice to make, and whatever your heart tells you...beware. Love is blind and will get you in the end, if you let this one slide.
Trust is a difficult thing to gain, once it's been lost, especially to something of that nature.
I would seriously sit down with this guy, and put the ball back in his court. It's your guy that needs to make the final move, though. It's up to him on whether or not HE wants to salvage this relationship. You've done all you can, and if he's serious about keeping this relationship strong, then HE needs to limit his time on the computer, or just stay away from it, altogether. That's up to him, though.
Unfortunately, you can't change who he is, and if this makes you in any way uncomfortable, then you need to consider your options.
Do you want to stay in a relationship where there are always going to be questions, coming from you, on whether or not he's being 'faithful' on any level? Or do you want something better, where you know you're not in any way, having to compete with some cybering that's going on, in the background?
If you give him another chance, who's to say that by doing so will only add onto 'another chance', and 'another'...and it just keeps going on? This guy will KNOW that you're willing to keep giving him these chances, just as much as you're giving him the message that 'it's okay for him to continue breaking his promises, because you've allowed him to do this to you'!! Is that what you really want?
Think about what YOU want in this relationship, and then think about how you're going to put the ball back in HIS court, so he's being held accountable for his actions, and how HIS decision will be the result of where your relationship is!
2006-12-31 21:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grl u should hav left him long time ago n i think that your guy loves with the idea of love only so its a fake love.he doesnt seem serious in his love life n he is looking for somthing else.i think he did this because he is small minded n having fun in his own world and not thinking about others!
girl theres always somone better than him n u hav a long life to live so ditch him oki if thats what you want!
2006-12-31 21:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of Men and Women live out their fantasys on Cyber chat, the things that that they can never chat with their loved ones.
Though it is supposed to be harmless, it can lead to complications if they do meet and find out that they can actually live in real life what they do in cyber space, so be careful.
2006-12-31 21:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by ashok kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true cyber sex is actually a place where nowdays most people young and old want to live their fantasy...and in todays scenario when by 14 children get visually saturated and by 22-24 yrs they are physically saturated .. they find different means to keep them amused and going...........so guess since u both are in love and not yet married.. i feel he is already saturated with the relationship..so either u both find realistic means to keep the fire burning or then talk and see what can be done to walk hand in hand with trust and love into the future together...........source i base it on my research ......LIFE IN A CHAT ROOM..
2007-01-01 04:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber sex is nuthin...is he usin a cam? if he is then u got a prob if he aint its uthin hes probablky just screwin around its totaly harmless as long as nmo "reall" people are involved...he probably just likes the "thrill of the hunt"...make him go after you...dont break up with him if u like him but make him "hunt you" again i can almost gaurantee hell totally fall for u
2006-12-31 21:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there must b a reason y he is turning to cyber sex.. are u sure u both are happy n satisfied in ur relationship??? and u kno love is hard to come by. y not ask him to consult a psychatrist... ?? as it is its ur call. if you love him and sure tat he loves u then u must find a solution together. better be very sure abt ur decision else u might regret it latter on
2006-12-31 21:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by menakshistar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cyber relationships are a farce. explain to him that you are not very comfortable with his attitude, & give him some time say 15 days to a month. if he continues his behavior, then u can walk out on him. coz.....personally i wouldn't trust a person who can be involved and distracted with something unreal!!
2007-01-01 00:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 07:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You write you r 'keeping him happy in every way' but, I don't think he is getting what he wants from you. Especially, sex. That's why he is exploring other easy avenues to satisfy his lust. Think over it, but, I can clearly see a gap between you two over sex matters. Talk it over with him and then decide on the future.
2006-12-31 21:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should leave him and keep me.my e-mail address is sumegha2025@indiatimes.com.please contect me.i m male, 25 from ahmedabad, gujarat state of india.
2007-01-01 00:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by sudhir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋