Do my "in-law's"like me?

Question

I think my fiancee's parents don't really like me. His mother is generally quite nice and polite to my face, but somethings not quite right. In particular I think my fiancee's father dislikes me. He recently made a comment saying (in all seriousness) that when we get married it won't last. It's also quite clear that he finds my parents to be "not good enough" for his standards.
My fiancee and I have been together 6 years and never a problem. However my fiancee can't always see what his parents are like.
The "in-laws" are always critical and often say hurtful things. Short of causing an argument, what do I do?
Or should I just not care?

Answer 1

I was with my ex for nearly 7 years had his baby, looked after him, worked and gave him all my money, have never been with anyone but him and never even thought about cheating. when our baby was 5 months old i found out he was cheating so i left him. His mother turned around and said "you can do so much better anyway". Nice hay, except she was saying it to him!!! They will never think you are good enough even if you are to good. Just grin and bare it they might act like they like you just do the same.

Answer 2

Have you talked to your own parents about your fears! Try to do so if not. They may give pieces of good advice. Hold back the bit about the attitude of your prospective father-in-law for the time being. You may tell your parents about it later if you've ascertained it. Sometimes he only said it as a "joke" once but be on the look-out for consistency on his part, may be three or more times. Your fiancee sees clearly what his parents are like but either he wants to play it all down for the moment or he is afraid to directly complain. However, this depends on how he was brought up and how he relates to his parents. If he loves you, am sure he will face it eventually. For the moment, be welcoming and gentle with them. Do not lose your patience. Try to endure, there seems to be light at the end of the present tunnel as long as you both love each other.

Answer 3

Talk to him about it ,you have to. They are not going anywhere so you may as well deal with it or leave im be. As far him thinking your parents not being good enough, do you love you parents, if the answer is yes then forget him and if the answer is no oh well you don't like them either.

Answer 4

I think that you should stick up for yourself!
I am only 14 but that doesn't matter.
My "father in law" is mean to me, his parents are mean to me, my mom & my real dad.
You probably won't choose this as your # 1 answer or think I aint right cause I am only 14 but trust me on this I know a lot for a pre-teen & this is one thing that a lot of grown ups thank me for so god bless you & I wish you a happy new year!

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about them. However, If they treat you badly in any way in the future, your husband(?) should set them straight. The comment about it not lasting, your fiancee should have said something.

Answer 6

honestly, when you are a parent...no one is good for your child. its kind of funny, you have to wait until you have a child and see for yourself. just learn to deal with it, dont let it bother you unless it gets out of hand. then talk to your soon-to-be-husband about it. good luck.

Answer 7

Don't get married. I am telling you all you will have is heartache.

Answer 8

Hey, at least they don't start hunting you down with a shotgun...
No...the question is do you take this person to be.....bra bra bra.

Answer 9

who cares what they think inlaws r usually c#@k suckers anyway

Answer 10

Phuck them...! If you're happy, then that's all that mattrers..!