My guy admits he was involved in cyber sex.its been happening for a long time..he doesnt say how long..but nothing less than 6-7 months. our relationship is 4 yrs old,and has been a loving one,mostly.He says what he did was stupid &childish(!) and that im in no way to blame.He says it'll never happen again(but thats what he said 6 months back,when i suspected this for the first time,but i didnt know what exactly was happening that time and we really didnt talk bout it so much then). I know he loves me,and he doesnt feel anything for his 'chat mates'. But i dont trust him now.I cant handle this but its difficult to just let him go and ending all that we've had for such a long time. Should i give him another chance? is there any way i'll ever be able to regain my trust in him? most importantly,can any guy tell me why he did this though he still loves me,n im keeping him happy in every way;any idea?
2006-12-31 20:49:18 · 13 answers · asked by tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why did you keep him for the first time? remember that when a person deviates from another, there has to be atleast one cause, say only for change. but this change when becomes a habit, you have a problem. Ask him why he went for the cybersex. Was it just an experiment, or he simply likes it and cannot restrain from it. If he satisfies u with his answer fine or you may give a second thought if you are thinking of a permanent relationship (that is what I feel is longterm relationships). Check the reasons behind his movements and then take a decision.
2006-12-31 21:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by dream me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can understand how bad you feel about this. It is really tough. You know, even your boy friend loves you, we have sometimes have some behaviours beyond our rational nature. Emotionality and sensitivity is always there. So as long as your boy friend have regreted for what he has done ,you should try to give him another chance. Deciding to stop this relationship has more harm for both of you.
For the things that he has done, there is no best explantion than he is just got into emotion and fantacy.
Your bad feelings will be evaporated soon enough if he is really changed and I am sure he will take care of you in the way he has never done it before. Cause there is guilty feelings inside him. So don't leave him. You can work this out.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-01 09:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolence i know it must be hard finding out what he did and i know its even harder trying to forgive and forget but the question is are you willing to start over with the trust issue there is help for guys like him and if he truly loves you he will seek counseling but you must stand by him and support him and it may take time but you will trust him again,at the end it all depends whether you guys love each other and still want to be a couple,good luck hope it all works out for you guys
2007-01-01 05:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has just gone through the same thing as you're going through. She decided to stay with her man but she has not been able to trust him completely again. In the end, the relationship will suffer if you know for a fact that you can't forgive & forget.
2007-01-01 04:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by funkychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly give him another chance but you should never regain your trust for him because he has done something wrong and immoral. Tell him that if he really loves you then he should only want you and no one else.
2007-01-01 04:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it bothers you that hes having cyber sex because its something that you cant control and being that its an elusive hobby or an illusion that he likes, makes your head spin cause women are the masters of illusion and power with illusion. I had two sister hun and thatsss!!! why I know that shi*t
2007-01-01 04:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a heart to heart talk is in order,, to find out what his needs are being met with the on line relationships,, then see if you can fill those voids! Start by just listening!
2007-01-01 04:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep him play hard to get but first talk to him and see why he did it and dont trust him until you feel its right again
2007-01-01 04:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by monzer12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone betrayed you once its so hard to gain trust.why dont you talk one on one. second chance maybe,
2007-01-01 04:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz he's a jack-***, and doesn't realize what a sweet loving woman he has.
2007-01-01 04:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋