How can I get shared responisbility for my son?

Question

I AM A GOOD FATHER BUT MY EX WON'T ALLOW ME TO BE INVOLVED IN HIS SCHOOLING OR TAKE HIM ON HOLIDAY, I CAN'T AFFORD A SOLICITOR AND CAN'T GET LEGAL AID

Answer 1

Parental responsibility Is it's legal term I have it for my daughters, i'm sorry to say but you need a solicitor unless your ex will agree to you having it, if she does not agree to that then a solicitor will gaurantee that you get it.

Answer 2

All I can offer is that you might want to review the following articles ...

CHILD CUSTODY--What Is the Balanced View? :
~ What Is in the Child's Best Interests?
~ Child Custody--A Balanced View
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1997/12/8/article_01.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1997/12/8/article_03.htm

The Problems of Children ... :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last!
- Help for Young People
- The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm

The Vital Role of Fathers
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/8/22a/article_01.htm

What Makes a Good Father?
~ Absent Fathers--A Growing Problem
~ The Kind of Father Children Need
~ How to Be a Good Father
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/8/22/article_01.htm

(These URLs will likely be modified soon, whereafter each title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with the new URL.)

Answer 3

you really do need to see a solicitor, cut back on other things, have you even asked if your eligable for legal aid ? If you have and your not then you need to cut back on other stuff, like beer, stay in on a Friday night the money you save could go towards your legal fees, get rid of some of the channels on your TV you can't possibly watch them all, try shopping somewhere different, smaller with not as much choice. Dont leave lights on or stuff on stand by, if you want to see your son you'll do whatever it takes.

Answer 4

Alot depends on the situation of when your son was born, if you are in the UK and your son was born and at that time you were married to his mother then you have joint parental responsibility to your son and rights to see him, unfortunatley the law is not so much on the side (so to speak) for fathers of out of wedlock births, my ex brotherin law had a enourmous battle through the courts to see his daughter (not born in wedlock) it cost him a fortune and he lost. Sorry this may not be what you want to hear - best advise is go to the citizens advice peolpe and im sure they will be able to point you in the right direction. I also recall my ex brotherinlaw saying that there are "fathers rights" website on the net - but im not sure of the web address

Answer 5

If you were married at the time of his birth, you have automatic parental responsibility and parental rights, also if your name appears on birth cert. there is nothing stopping you contacting his school and making yourself known to them. Explain that your ex is being awkward and that you wish to take an interest in his education. You can then meet his teacher and get reports, go to concerts etc. Not great but better than nothing, it also gives you a better chance if you ever do get to court, you can show you've tried to be involved. Good luck.

Answer 6

I do not mean to seem mean but If you can not afford a lawyer how do you plan to care for the child. The mother should let you see and or take care of the child regardless of being. The child needs a father all children do.

Answer 7

Have you asked your ex why she willnot allow either of these? before running to a solicitor ask her for her reasons and see if you can allay any concerns that she might have. What is she afraid of? Tell her to be specific. then come back and ask the question again.

Answer 8

WELL YOU DONT NEED EITHER FOR A PARENTING PLAN YOU CAN GET IT AT THE COUNTER AT ANY COURT HOUSE...FILL IT OUT PAY MAYBE 55 BUCKS FOR FILING AN WOOWHO YA GOT A COURT DATE... THIS IS LIKE A VISITATION PLAN BUT EASIER.. YOU GET TO ARGUE IT IN FRONT OF A JUDGE.. AND WELL AT THIS POINT SHE LOOKS LIKE THE BAD ONE FOR NOT LETTING YOU BE INVOLVED.. IM A MOM OF 5 KIDS, AND A TOTAL OF 3 DADS MY OLDER GIRLS HAVE THE SAME DAD AND WELL HE HASNT SEEN EM IN 3 YRS MY 3RD CHILD DOESNT EVEN KNOW HIS DAD AND AS FOR MY LAST 2 THERE BY MY HUSBAND WHO HAS STOOD BEHIND ALL MY KIDS... YOU JUST DONT FIND GUYS OUT THERE ANY MORE WHO WANT TO BE INVOLVED AND WELL A JUDGE SEES THAT AND YOU WANT TO BE THERE FOR YOUR SON AND IM SURE THE JUDGE WILL COURT ORDER IT!! GOOD LUCK AND AT LEAST IM PROUD OF YOU FOR WANTING AND BEING THERE FOR AS MUCH AS YOU CAN AND YOUR EX WILL LET YOU

Answer 9

Why can't you get legal aide? Take it to court. Call a lawyer for free phone adivise.

Answer 10

from my own experience wait until ur son is older,i went to a lawyer who helped me get legal aid as i am on a low wage,if you get working tax credits you should get help in this matter. i hope it all works out for you. i now have to wait to see my daughter