I have reported abuse in the past, Now her Step-Dad bare-butt spanks my grand daughter age 7.?

Question

I have reported abuse in the past to Child Protection. Nothing was ever done. My daughter is soooooo scared. she was diagnosed with MS. My grand-daughter age 7 now is being bare-butt spanked by him, making her little brother watch, he plugs his ears so he can't hear his sisters screams. (god what do I do?) Once they find out I am the reporter, they take her away from me for up to 1 year at a time. I am so scared he is and can be so mean. Child Protection here has not taken anything serious and listens to all the lies said and not to my grand-daughter. she is scared, and worried about her mom. I don't want to lose my grand-daughter again. (I have a total of 17 grand-kids) I can hardly sleep. Why can't the adults and Children be questioned separately? He just gets worse when he finds out she tells. He believes in the harsh spanking's, and the harsh threats. My daughter was not raised that way. She is very caring, loving of her children she needs help. since her illness. I am so scared.

I am very strong welled type of person, Abuse was my line in child hood. My children never experinced it from me. Not ever. "I would had hurt them" He knows it and uses it against her saying, things like, "your Grandma went threw it, it didn't hurt her" he is sick, makes me sick. By the way he was raised in a foster home and also claims he was abused. " the poor feel sorry for me line, from him".

Answer 1

http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=department+of+social+services&rs=0&fr2=rs-top&ei=UTF-8&fr=slv8-reg

Go to this website it has each state and all the individual state regulations..Im sure you could get some answers from here.

Now, your as far as your daughter goes I looked up a few facts about MS...
...Tertiary symptoms may include lowered self-esteem, which could affect a person's family or social life.
It's something you can live with. Many people with MS live long, fulfilling lives. They can often continue in their careers, raise children, and maintain their personal and romantic relationships. A positive way to view MS is that it's a change in lifestyle.
You probably know all this already, but I just want to be sure that you do or that you take another look as a reminder. I think that you should seriously look in to what you can achieve with social services and weigh all your options out...If you go with out seeing you grand child and she grows to live a happy life with out abuse don't you think that would be worth it..It is hard to look at it that way I am sure. But if you decide to go that route try to look at it that way.
In the mean time offer to take the kids as much as possible so that you can spend as much time as you possibly can, while making a lasting impression on them with your presents and caring, loving, gentle personalities...You have to do what you feel is right in your heart, because in the end you are the one that has to live with you every day..You live with the guilt or pain everyday no body else will..Do the best you can do and that is follow your heart..
Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
I will pray for your grand daughter...

Answer 2

Why doesn't Children's Services question the child away from her parents? If there is an allegation of abuse, it should be taken more seriously.

Are you able to take in your daughter and her children if she gets the courage to leave? Is there a battered women's shelter that could help them? It is certainly emotional abuse of your daughter to see her daughter abused and not feel able to stop it!

If there is a shelter available, it will be in a secure location where she and the kids will not be found. They can help her file for a divorce and start a new life.

If you are able to take them in, you should get a restraining order against the man --to prevent him from trying to get them back. It will not really prevent him from doing anything, though. It will just give the police a reason to arrest him if he attempts.

If you can get them away, maybe then your granddaughter will find the courage to tell the authorities what has been going on.

Please keep trying to do what you can to change the situation without making it worse for that poor girl!

Answer 3

You really need to call child services again and stress to them that you want to remain anonymous but that you are very concerned over the treatment of these children. I am sure if you are aware of this abuse there is probably other issues that are far worse going on. Suggest that they interview the children separately or make a home visit unannounced. You can also go to the children's school and talk with their guidance counselor about your fears and ask them to intervene on behalf of these children. You have a right to be afraid for these small children and they are very lucky to have a grandparent who risks the wrath of the parent in order to protect them. Please don't give up trying to help I know that it seems difficult but maybe you might even have to eventually call the police and ask them to advise you what the next step should be.

Answer 4

I would call child protection again and express your concerns about this. The dad cannot find out that you were the reporter because it is illegal for child protection to give them that information (at least in my state it is). You need to tell them everything you have seen. Try to get other witnesses to report it too.....will the mom speak up abou t it?

You need to tell child protection that the child is spanked in areas hidden by clothing. When child protection does home visits, they will not remove a child for phsyical abuse unless they can see the marks on the face, arms, etc, but if you tell them ahead of time that it is in covered areas, it will be a different situation. Finally, yes, they can interview the child separately from the parents. You need to tell them how the dad acts when he finds out she tells ( hitting, threats, etc). While CPS in your area may find spanking unacceptable, hitting is not, so be careful about which word you are using.

I hope everything works out. Take Care!

Answer 5

Depending on location, parents usually are legally allowed reasonable physical punishment in the interests of a child's development. A spanking would probably be viewed as inappropriate punishment for this given you're presumably old enough to drive, however. You'd likely at least be able to get CPS involved.

Answer 6

tI work with c p and i know what you are talking about it usely takes 3 times for the c p to be called the home before they do something.When you or anyone calls let the caseworkers know that you want them to be talk to in different parts of the house and also tell them you want the cops to be there.that happened to my children i'm adopting and and the cops asked the kids where mr.***** is and they went to get it.The item was a 2 x 4.It does count when when you scream and jump up and down.
You also can have other people call besides you.Good luck and god bless everyone,Take care of those little ones and keep them out of his way,please

Answer 7

Call and have the police do a well check on the family. Tell them that if they question her in front of the father that she will be punished later for telling the truth.

You have to keep calling. Make anonymous reports then they have absolutely no way of know who called because it is against the law for DSS or the police to tell them.

You have to protect her if no one else will.

Answer 8

Go to the media. Tell them your story and that Child Protection is turning a blind eye to a blatant case of child abuse. That ought to get the ball rolling.

Answer 9

You have to report him to the police because what he is doing is both wrong and illegal, This guy would get a punch in the face and more off me if he did that to anyone belonging to me,, This man is abusing these children and is a bully.. You have got to stop him now..

Answer 10

Your daughter needs to step up & take control.Tell her if she doesnt,,she will loose the child.You cannot stand by & do nothing.Even foster care is better than that.Best of luck to you & the children.