I met this girl online , we talked all night and sometime during the night expressed liking / semi-love for each other.On the second day , she sent me her pics , I think I wouldn't like the way she looks. Judging from the pics , I think there's a 70 to 80 % chance that I won't like her looks.
What should I do ? Should I vanish completely from the map? Should I meet her anyway and see how it goes? Suppose I meet her and I don't like the way she looks , what should I do or say to let her down gently?.
I care a lot about how other people feel , I don't want to hurt her feelings or self-esteem in any sense , shape or form.
help me out here girls..
2006-12-31 19:19:22 · 23 answers · asked by nOnAME_MAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should meet her. It can't hurt. If you like her, call her again. If you don't like her, then you never have to see or speak to her ever again. She'll get the hint.
2006-12-31 19:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that you are being rather superficial basing all your feelings about this girl based upon her physical appearance. You stated that you were able to talk to her all night and felt emotionally attached to her because of this. Now all these feelings disappear because of what she looks like. That is pretty sad on your part. I think that you should probably do her a favor and not meet up with her. It sounds like you wouldn't be the kind of person that she would like to meet anyway and maybe you should examine your priorities and what you truly value before meeting anyone else. You can be attracted to the exterior of a person for just so long before they begin to bore you but a person with a great personality that you have a lot in common with doesn't happen all the time.
2006-12-31 19:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after one nite I wouldn't worry about it. Vanish if you want.. or be a man and tell her the truth. Tell her you like her, but don't know if you would be attracted to her.
Its something people that meet online are concerned with. You won't know till you see maybe more pics/ webcam or meet her in person.
Try to get to know her better if you truely are a nice person.
2006-12-31 19:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everybody looks as good in pictures as they do in person. Take a chance and meet her. You already acknowledged that you had a good feeling about her. Don't let a picture ruin any chances. Also you may find that more you get to know her, the more attractive you think she is.
2006-12-31 19:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go and meet her..that would be the time when you can really tell if you really like her for her personality or not coz of her looks...i'm sure you fell "semi-inlove" with her without seeing her..who knows you might like her not because of her looks but coz of her personality..and if things really won't work out from the first time you see her just make her feel that friendship is all you want from her and not the other stuff.
2006-12-31 19:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already having reservations just from looking at a picture, then don't waste her time by meeting with her. I'm sure you proberly already lied and stated to her that you liked the pictures. So just come clean and tell her that she is not your type don't run and hide. Women appreciate honesty.
2006-12-31 19:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Shervetta S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever had that thing where you first look at someone and thought they were ugly but when you get to know them more your views on them change? and they actually seem better than before.
maybe it's like that.
but if you know for sure, she's not "attractive" enough then you shouldn't risk it. it's just best not to meet her.
it would save time and it would hurt her less.
yea vanish away.
2006-12-31 19:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by CAT. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love how chicks talk about guys being superficial with looks and ****. Women are just as bad as guys are. Actually, women are worse, because beyond looks they are superficial about money, cars, power. A woman saying, "there was just no chemistry" or "you're a nice guy" is just woman code for, "the guy wasn't hot."
2006-12-31 19:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Greg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean looks help keep things alive in a relationship, but it's definitely not everything. But you should be attracted to her in the first place otherwise you won't even really put to much modivation into things between you and her haha
2006-12-31 19:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you care about her feelings, reverse the roles. Imagine you are her. What would you like the guy to do? Simply disappear? Do it in a way that makes YOU feel okay.
2006-12-31 19:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋