Did he play me ?

Question

A guy I dated long ago found me online 2 months ago.
He acted at first like he was still the sweet guy I knew him as.
I couldnt see him right away because he lived in hometown & I was moving home at year end.
Our IMs got very flirty. At a couple points he got extreme with S&M stuff but I chalked it up to him getting overexcited.
I moved home a week ago and he contacted me Xmas night.
He wanted me to come over to his house later Xmas night.
I joked that he wanted a Chsitmas Booty call and he got mad online and called me a B^tch. He then said he didnt want me because I had been mean.
2 days later I told him that I had no plans for New Year's Eve because I had to take care of my grandmother who recently had a heart attack and broke her back.
Instead of writing that he was sorry, he wrote back and asked if I d like to come by his place around 11pm -midnight that same night.
That made me irate, so I finally wrote and nicely explained that I have high standards. That I never compromise my dating ideals and that if he would like to ask me out on a normal proper date that would be great.
But I wont just come over to his place at night like that.

So now dead silence on his end. Nada response at all.
I was on AIM and Yahoo IM and so was he. He didnt IM me nor email me last night.
His silence speaks volumes.
Should I just ignore this creepy player or tell him off for good ?

Answer 1

YOU KNOW, I LIKE THE WAY YOU MAKE HIM STRAIGHT. I LIKE YOUR CONFIDENCE. YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT HIM, HE IS JUST PLAYING WITH YOU. JUST IGNORE HIM. HE DON'T DESERVE YOU.

Answer 2

He is so shallow the insults would simply slide underneath his slimy behind. I would not waste my time telling him off. I would simply tell him in a polite way that obviously the two of you have different standards and ideas regarding dating and relationships. Better you found out now rather than later. God bless****

Answer 3

You have been straight with him. Told him what you expect from a man. Good for you!

I have learned the men who do the sex talk on IM or has one of those webcams....to get away fast! They are only interested in the quest of getting sex.

Just ignore him....he doesn't deserve any more of your energy. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes..he is not worth it. Just ignore him. But if you have really loved him by heart it is very difficult to forget him. But you will have to..No point in going behind. If this man is not understanding your situation..and is only interested in calling you to his place in the midnight..then he is only intested in that. Be happy that you have found out early. Otherwise...it would have been hell for you.

Answer 5

You answered by yourself in the last part of your question. There is no way of no responding or replying. "His silence speakes volumes". Yes, it does. Ignore him. Go for a swordfish. A good one. You deserve it.

Answer 6

You know, I would swear I've answered one of these ?'s not too long ago and I'm honestly surprised you're still asking what to do given the details. Let it go.

Answer 7

You can do way better than him. And only cuss him out if he emails or im you again. He just want a booty call.

Answer 8

id just ignore him. if he was upset at when u said and thats why hes not talking to u, he will explain that when he calms down about it. otherwise, who cares. stick to ur standards and dont like anybody try to call u out of them.

Answer 9

Don't initiate any contact... tell him you're not interested if he IMs you again. He's not a good guy... 11 pm dates at his place, calling you names... etc., you deserve way better.

Answer 10

This guy is looking for one thing...sex. Dump him, he sounds like a jerk! Don't settle for less when you are worth so much more. You can definitely do better! Good luck to you.

Answer 11

Unless you are into getting tied up and probed on a first date....I'd recommend never talking to him again.

He sounds creepy, you sound nice....so it doesn't sound like a match.

You didn't get played, you didn't play him....it's online, just don't meet him and it's over.