Please be objective and let me know what you think
Met a croation girl, need adivce badly.?
I am 31 she is 28. exchanged #s off net and talked on phone for 1-2 hours nightly before meeting. after 3 nights of talking met for a quick dinner before she went to work. She was everything I look for, great person. I like her, She is not calling me now, If I text her she calls back and we talk pleasently for 30mins-1.5 hours on phone, If I mention anything about going out she kinda blows it off. I dont want to be too pushy so I dont call her just send a text saying hello and she will then call. I really like her and dont want to lose her by trying to hard...what should I do ? I am worried to ask what she thinks about us because she may feel I am pressuring. Can someone tell me what you think of this situation ?
Why does she seem happy and talk to me for lengths of time on phone ?
2006-12-31 17:39:24 · 8 answers · asked by zigzag 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you just relax for a while. Don't call her so often. Give her a chance to call you. If she doesn't, she probably isn't interested in increasing the intensity of the relationship.
It sounds to me like you are pressuring her more than she is comfortable with.
If she calls and you can develop a relationship, that's great, good luck to you. If not, there are lots of other people out there. Try to learn from this relationship so that you will approach the next relationship with more restraint until the relationship has developed.
I know it's hard. Meeting woman is like cold calling in selling. If you make 100 calls and maybe 10 sells and you've had a good month. Don't invest so much of yourself in every attempt. Ask every woman out that you are remotely interested in. You might find that special person is someone you wouldn't have considered on first sight.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 17:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by tfedge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the phone she can pretend better. In person actions speak louder than words. She might be doing the be nice to him routine to not hurt your feelings but she has no interest in you despite what she says on the phone or she might have a man friend that she's ALMOST broke up with and is keeping you just in case but doesn't want to get caught up in anything until her relationship balances out or ends. I strongly suggest that you let the expectation of a man, woman relationship take a back burner until you know exactly what's going on. Be a friend first and if you can't then leave it alone all together or you'll get hurt.
2007-01-01 01:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be unsure or not feeling the chemistry.who's to know without asking
if she is not a part of your life now she sure wont be if you don't make it clear what you see!
ask what do you have to loss ?
if she only wants to talk on the phone that may be all she wants at this point you will never know unless you ask
2007-01-01 01:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by tofatandblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are cool to talk with on the phone, she likes sharing stories about her life with you, etc., but she just doesn't feel the connection when you're together in person... Sorry!
2007-01-01 01:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Pink and Red 1889 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was put off by your looks but doesn't know how to tell you and doesn't want to be rude about it.
2007-01-01 01:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like she is losing intrest and u should try talking to her face to face. good luck and have a happy new year.
2007-01-01 01:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but she`s got some1 else i had it done 2 me it hurts but it only makes u stronger GOOD LUCK
2007-01-01 01:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she only likes you as a friend
2007-01-01 01:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋