I am so embarassed?

Question

I am 20 years old and yet my mother dont want me doing anything I want. Like I was to go out with my bf for New Years and she get mad saying that my father will get upset. Then she come telling me next year how I could go about doing it since I will be 21. She tell me to leave in the morning then come back home then go back out b4 my father get home. I F****** hate this family. I dont like being with them and now I have to start the new yea with them. I wanted to start the year without them s***. I just hate it. I am like the only 20 year old u hear that can't go out at 12pm, or cant work a night shift, or cant even pick who I want to date.

I would move out if the freakin rent werent so high....duh.

Answer 1

find a place of your own that you can afford or split rent with a flatmate!!

Answer 2

well I know what can solve all your problems, since your 20 and and adult now I guess you can do all the adult things that go with making your own decisions and rules and thats get a job if you dont have one, save for the next year and then some if your smart and move out get a place pay all your own bills and do whatever you want its not really all that great once you get there well it is in alot of ways but theres no rush, just count the blessings you do have realize them and be thankful although that does sound alittle extreme but why is that have you broke there trust before or what if not then I dont know your gonna have to look at it the other way to get thru it, actually becoming an adult involved getting to be like me where new years is not exciting that much any more and you've realized no one really are that good of friends and dont want to spend it with them anyways atleast they really do love you and care about you, I know how you feel though none of what i'm saying has any real meaning to you right now just trying to help though, hay i'm doing what you are to and I can do whatever so I feel even like more of a looser it could be worse, good luck Kim

Answer 3

You are 20 years old. You had the right to leave 2 years ago. Tell your family that you are an adult and you should be on your own making your own decisions. If you do not take my advice, i have a scary story for you. When my uncle was in highschool, he got beat up and my grandmother took him out of school, so he never graduated. He is now 30 something years old and still lives with her! It gets worse. He stays in his room all day long as my Granny screams at him. The only time he can leave the house is to go to the grocery store. He has no social life. Now you are a young woman with a head on your shoulders and i would hate to see you end up like my uncle, for you have a future. He almost was sent to a magnet school. Get out of that house soon and Happy New Year!

Answer 4

Well, I don't see a question hear, just alot of venting. You have a right to be upset, and obviously you are. You were obviously brought up right, and have respect for your parents wishes. Did you think that maybe they are trying to protect you for one last year? Maybe they are afraid because of all the drunk driver's out, that something bad might happen. I understand your frustration. If you are going to stay home, and are embarrassed by the reason - then lie. Lie if you must, say you are sick, that you ate something bad, etc. You are obviously living under their roof, so why not make your new year's resolution to find your own place so that you can have the freedom you desire. I hope that you try to salvage some kind of happiness and cheer tonight. Good luck and Happy New Year.

Answer 5

As oppressive as this may seem to you there is another side to the story. Your parents raised you from a baby and they have always looked after your well being.

Now they worry about what may happen if you do go out late. Even if you were not in harms way they know how boys are and they are afraid you may become pregnant.

The only reason you have to stay there is financial obviously. You cant afford to move out. So.....until you can......you must live with their rules.

But try to understand this. While you may hate the way the control you please try to understand they still see you as that little girl they love so much and want to protect her.

There will come a time in the not to distant future when you will see what they are trying to do. Only then will you appreciate it. But as sure as night follows day you will come to see it.

Answer 6

You're still living in THEIR house. If you don't like their rules move out. It's not like you're 17 and don't have the choice.

They're just looking after you. Parents are like that. They don't want you out drinking before you're 21 because MIPs are not fun and neither are DUIs.

And no I'm not a parent...I'm 20 just like you are, but I respect their rules because it's their house and they raised me. I wouldn't be here to complain about how unfair it all is if they weren't around.

Answer 7

The very minute you move out on your own and are no longer supported by your parents, you can do things whatever way you want. As long as they're paying for you, they get to make the rules. Yeah, it isn't fun, but that's the way it works. He who pays the bills has the power. Right now, that's your parents.

Answer 8

When you are 21 you can legally move out and no longer be under your familys rules. Of course you will need a job and you can not expect anything else from them , like tuition, medical insurance etc.

Answer 9

I also know many 18 year-olds that rent their own apartments, have jobs, and completing college at the same time... Oh! forgot to say, They also can do whatever they want because of that.

Answer 10

So start planning on how you'll move out. Save money, find a roommate, etc. This will be a good New Year's resolution for you.

Answer 11

Girl these are your choices

One: Get a better job that works night hours and move out!
Two: deal with it and stop complaing!

Your an Adult start actting like one!