My daughter is 11 years old. She is crying about not having a boyfriend. Acting very emotional. What do I say

Question

She is entering puberty. Could that be why? I am a single Mom, have a boyfriend. Do you think she is trying to be like me?

Answer 1

Is her dad in the picture? If not, you are the only parent, the only security she has. You're emotionally involved with a boyfriend, and she's wanting a boyfriend, not only to be like you, but to give herself someone to cling to because you have someone else. Without her father in the home giving her extra security and a man who loves her, she is going to be very prone to hooking up and getting pregnant at a young age, trying to fill that emotional hole in her soul. The statistics on this are huge.

Answer 2

Young girls approaching puberty do get overly emotional about all sorts of things. She's still at an age where you can probably redirect her thoughts/distract her from her current focus. Maybe you should do some real one-on-one girl things with her, and make sure there is no mention of boys and boyfriends. Get her excited about something else. Sounds like she thinks a boyfriend will equate some sort of happiness or fill some sort of void.
It's normal, but does need attention.

Answer 3

I think that you are not setting a good example for your daughter. She is too young to even have a boyfriend. What she needs in her life is you, not a boyfriend.

Whatever the case may be for you being a single mom, I think that you should stop dating and start raising your daughter rather then bringing in a stranger in the home. Wait another 8 years till she is on her own, then date. If she has hurt feelings about the separation, then do yourself a favor, don't date anymore....instead, be there for your daughter, she needs you the most! She doesn't need anymore chaos in her life. (smile)

Answer 4

im 12 now and i was like that last year i still dont have a bf but u just need to tell her that there is NO point for a 11 year old to go out with somebody shes not going to know in a couple of years

Answer 5

This is the age where she is learning how to define who she is, and who she will be, in life. I would teach her that she is A.) too young for a boyfriend and should be concentrating on school and B.) she is a young woman, and she does not need a man in her life to define who she is. She should appreciate herself for who she is mentally, emotionally, and physically, and the changes she will encounter as she gets older. Help her find a hobby she can appreciate, like arts & crafts, sports, animals, painting, or drawing.

Answer 6

Puberty will do that for sure. All girls are emotional at that time --some are more so than others. This too shall pass.
Try not to take it personally.

Answer 7

I dont have a boyfriend,and I'm 11.But I am getting all emotional about 2006 almost ending=[.I have NO idea why,but I got a little teary eyed earlier.=/

Answer 8

She is getting to that age. Spend more time with her. Take her on a girls day out. She is to young to be crying over not having a boyfriend. Make sure there is nothing more serious going on with her.Good luck.

Answer 9

Tell not to worry about having a boyfriend yet, she'll have enough time in the future to worry about it. Make her focus on something like sports or some hobby.

Answer 10

She's wanting to be a preteen....that's all... it's very common...

Also, she probably feels left out at school seeing her friends or people she knows, or movies and tv she watchs having those kinds of relationships..it's a sense of statue, indepenance, and feeling accepted.

I'm glad to know you were humble enough to ask this question. I hope you ask more parenting issues...most parents just complain and not think that there is a better solution.