my boyfriend loves me so much and tells me so every chance he gets. I'm 15 (i'm mature for my age) and he's 19. we've been dating 4 months now and he just went on a trip with his parents for the holidays. he came back today and i went to his house. we went to his room to watch a movie. we were on his bed. we started making out then he touched my crotch and then put his hand up my shirt and under my bra. He always tells me that if he does something that i dont like then all i have to do is speak up. but i can't. i have been through many difficult relationships and i was sexually abused as a child and he knows that. he's my best friend. But i'm scared he wants more than my love. i'm scared he's like every other guy and just wants sex. Does he?
2006-12-31 14:49:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it, but then again none of us know him as well as you. Either way, even from what you just described he could go to jail. Age doesn't matter quite as much with relationships, but it does matter with the law. You should speak up, not only for your own sake but for his as well. It sounds like you've gone through enough and don't need this extra pressure. Talk to him, and if he loves you he'll understand.
2006-12-31 15:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't think that a 15 year old should be dating a 19 year old . I did when I was 15 and he was 19. You may have fun when your around each other but, really you or on two different sexual levels.He may say that he wants you to tell him but really he is really horney and him knowing what you went through I don't think that he loves you or else he wouldn't he even taken it there. You are still young enjoy your life and find you.I am sorry to hear what happened to you. Don't let him use you if he really loves you he will wait and not use reverse psychology on you. You are better then that and you body is yours .I hope I helped you. Oh by the way I am 26 now and I was a virgin when I met that 19 year old and he took it told me he loved me and all the things that he should have said.And guess what I am not with him anymore.
2006-12-31 23:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly ...yes ....all guys at that ago have a very high sex drive whereas women do not reach their peak until age 30 +
It isnt something they do intentionally , its just the way it is ..
If he is willing to accept no as your answer than SAY IT ! If he respects you enough he should be able to wait until you choose.
If he isn't , then you need to consider moving on if you feel you are not ready .
2006-12-31 22:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist off he seem a little old. i go by just a two year difference normaly but that just me. if he knows ur history he should knwo that he has to be carful with u. if he dosen't make the effort then he dosen't care. i couldn't kiss my bf. i don't knwo why but i had this fear. i still do. i have been with him three months and he is my frist. he says he loves me. he also shows me by not pressureing me into anything. there are a few times when his hormones get the best of him. i just tell him i'll dump him if he tryes anything. that gets him to leave me alown. talk to him tell him ur just not ready. if he loves u he'll wait.
2006-12-31 22:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's 19 and ur 15 if he does he could go to jail so u need to speak up if something is bothering you he's not going to care if he told you to speak up. u're still a minor and he's not so be careful with what u do.
2006-12-31 22:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you feel uncomfortable and that your not ready for the things he does. As well as it's not legal in most countries I believe.
If he really does love you like he says, he will respect you and your wishes.
2006-12-31 22:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a face to face talk with him about how you feel about the situation.
if he is mature enough, he will answer you truthfully
2006-12-31 22:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Shack_65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak up if things start to go further than you would like. if he doesn't understand, find another bf that will
2006-12-31 22:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by more61077 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course that's ALL he wants honey....he's too old for you..throw him back and stay with children your own age.....once he uses you, he will dump you and it's you who will be hurt, not him.
2006-12-31 22:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and why don't your parents call the police on him ...
he is too old for you
2006-12-31 22:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by loveradsrn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋