My boyfriend cheated on me and I made us break the lease on our townhouse and get our own places. I moved in with my parents to save some money and he got a new apartment. But instead of paying $400 ( we split it) in rent now he has to pay $700 plus all the other bills. Now he wants me back becuase he realizes that he loves me. He is pretty poor these days. Is is coming back because of me or because he is broke? I told him I didnt want to work things about before christmas becuase that was all he would talk about.
2006-12-31 13:45:37 · 22 answers · asked by wicked1too 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he had to dump you and kick you out of your house (so to speak) to realize he 'loves' you, he doesn't love you. Move on honey, there are so many more fish in the sea, he's not worth your time. Go find someone who respects you and treats you like a princess, you deserve more than this one has to offer.
2006-12-31 13:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by pumbakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this one may not be too difficult to gage. After all, if he wants to get back together that's one thing. That should NOT imply picking up where you left off. Just tell him you want to take it slowly. Go on some dates and see if he is always making you pay or asking to 'borrow' money. If he pays -- well pays for at least half of -- the meals and the movies and each of the nights out that is a good sign but again take it slowly. If he really wants you back, he should be willing to spend money on you despite his fiscal difficulties. Given enough time, you should be able to tell either way what his true intentions are. But one thing I do suggest is give people the benefit of the doubt -- don't rush to move back in together but don't just dismiss the guy if you don't know the reason for sure. Waiting until after the holidays is quite reasonable. Just take it slowly.
2006-12-31 13:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by THe VaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t's only you alone can ans. that question! If you think that's what
he is around for why do you give it to him? Dos he work? Dos he always ask you for money? Dos he give you money? Are you too
married I meen to each other?and by the way How dose he know
that you have money?? Do you flant it in his face I meen show off
on him? and the other thing do you behave like you are buying his love?? Do you do for him more than he do for you? My dear I
could go on,&, on & on, for a long time those are the question I
ask that you should revued and if most of them is yes it could be
yes and you would be the person who to be blaimed not him
because you let it happened to your self so go and do some home work for your self OK?. some women will do any and every
thing to quor an quot keep a man, even some thing that they know is againest them but they will please the man even if they
have to displeased them self so if you are asking that question
you may be seing some thing in the merrow, so only you can answere that question for your self. Go and do your home work.
By tor now hope you get the answere.>>>.
2006-12-31 14:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by norman j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get back with him, then tell him that he has to keep his new apartment by himself for 6 months. He has to pay for everything. That should tell you if he is in it for the money. Plus, if you don't want him, then tell him. Maybe he was saying that to you before Christmas so he could have some extra money with you moving back in? I don't know. Good luck.
2006-12-31 13:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be VERY suspicious and require a good deal of verification of his feelings. Cheaters almost never stop cheating without a LOT of effort and work (often in therapy). The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
2006-12-31 13:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut on this one. He cheated on you AND you think he wants you for the money.
Save yourself some time, heart ache and money, don't go back. If he really wants to be with you, he can do that ... without living with you and making you pay money to be there.
Good luck!
2006-12-31 13:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by TD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself wouldn't give a cheater another chance, having been that route in my past. It's difficult to find peace and understanding inside under those circumstances. But, if you really think he deserves another chance with you and you're willing to take the chance yourself, take it slow and don't move in with him. Most of all, listen to your gut feelings. My own experience taught me that once a cheater, always a cheater, but that's only my experience.
2006-12-31 13:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him sweat it out! It is your turn to see what else is out there with no guilt. The next one might be Mr. Right and not a cheater! You can update your wardrobe with all the money you are saving!
2006-12-31 13:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by flash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is unarguable that two may live less expensively as one. There is a certain positive logic in that. As he has had sex with you AND another woman (I assume it was another woman), certainly convenient sex is another positive. Can he be loyal after this disloyalty? Uncertain. Now you can date him cautiously and bide your time. Do you learn psychology?
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2006-12-31 13:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you to take care of him.Test the waters first if he asks you for something just tell him that you can't help him. If it's money that he after he'll be gone once he see's that you don't have it to give.
2006-12-31 14:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋