I'm working for this doctor who's a single nice guy from the same culture. He's 14 yrs older than me. It's been almost a year that I'm at this office and I've always been serious, professional & at the same time nice with everyone. All of the staff like me and so do I, but I have a different feeling for this doctor and I think he has the same feelings for me cause he mentioned some stuff indirectly and specialy at an office party for christmass before he was drunk or something, suddenly told me "You'd better look for a nice doctor at this pary tonight" since there were only 3 doctors & 2 of them were married. He could've said find a nice guy (in general) at this party instead. Then, I realized he said that on purpose. I really like his personality & charactor but I'm shy & he's shy 2 and it's a hard situation to look into your employer and talk about your feelings. However, all my family & friends are sure that he's into me and told my feelings to him, no matter what.
2006-12-31 13:31:18 · 6 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you've thought a lot about his instruction to you to find a nice doctor at the party. Then, ask him if he had one in mind who would be happy to have you approach. As a character in one of Shakespeare's plays said, "Screw your courage to the sticking point, and we'll not fail."
2006-12-31 13:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is poor advice and noting good will come of it. This is what will happen if he was hinting at this.
He will play a little horizontal mambo with you, and everyone in the office will know. (they can just tell no matter how much you think you've hid it) It will be awkward at work, and you will loose the respect of your co workers. Many will be jealous and feel that he is playing favorites even when he isn't.
The only way you can have a relationship, morally & ethically is to go to work for another and date this one.
Let me explain. Doctors want to "do" all of his nurses especially the married ones. If one of them gives them the go, they are more then ready, but it almost ALWAYS goes bad.
You seem to already have your mind set and you will go forward with it. It may work out and you will never know, but If it doesn't, it will be hard to work with him and your coworkers. It just isn't worth it. Good luck.
2006-12-31 14:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Computer Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was talking about himself,and he may very well like you too,but tell him your feelings?Not yet.You know him in a professional capacity,Not personally.If he told you that you should find a nice doctor at that party knowing that he was the only single one there,he is not shy.You also said that he got drunk,it may be the only time he can express himself. That in itself could be a problem if you let things progress to quickly before knowing more about him.A year is a good amount of time to know a person professionally,but not enough time to know the person behind the mask that each of you have to wear at work. There may be more personal things you need to know about him before you get too involved with him.Your family and friends have their opinion,I personally don't think they should have told him your feelings.That is something i think you should do.But not before you get to know the man,not the Doctor.
2006-12-31 14:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough situation you don't want to do anything drastic because it may cost you your job but on the flip side do little things that suggest you may like him like flirt and things of that nature and see where things go. good luck.
2006-12-31 13:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would start looking for another job first. then, when you find one, you can give him your resignation, and ask him out on a date at the same time.
2006-12-31 13:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, don't do anything! Let things happen naturally! If they are meant to be...then they will be!
Cupids on your side!
2006-12-31 13:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋