i know i asked this same question yesterday, but im still stressing about it.
part of me wants to meet them and part of me doesn't. I guess I'm kind of angry at them, but then I'm kind of happy that they did what they did or gave me up. i have so many questions for them. like why they gave me up and not her. i guess i'm kind of angry about that. my sister wants to also get to know me. she's about a year and a half older than me. all of this is so hard. i just don't know how to deal. my parents are okay with the idea, but maybe i should just avoid all of this. im just so confused.
2006-12-31 13:14:15 · 6 answers · asked by hope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't imagine what it's like to be in your position, but since you're asking for advice I'll give you my two cents. I think you should meet them. You have questions, these are the people with the answers. If you're angry with them, this is your chance to explain that to them and give them an opportunity to respond. You might feel a lot better about it when you're through. But I would prepare myself beforehand, emotions are funny you never know how something is going to make you feel. But if your parents are behind you and you have a support team, I would give it a shot. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-31 13:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by yanks7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to them on the phone about what you are feeling first, it will lessen the pressure. But I think you should definently meet them eventually. Remember, they are the ones who found you and want to meet YOU. I am sure they had a good reason for giving you up and they were putting you in a better situation then you would have been in with them. Take a deep breath, and go to see them. You will regret it if you don't.
2006-12-31 13:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by pepsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you're adopted, take one of your foster parents with you. This will help calm you down and not be as scared to meet your real parents. I think that you should meet up with your real parents because even though they did give you up they're willing to talk to you now. And that's what really counts with family!!! :-D Good luck and email me how it goes at little_dex@hotmail.co.uk
2007-01-01 02:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet your real parents because one day, you may regret not doing so. At the very least, for them to answer your questions about why they gave you up.
You don't have to be buddies with them. At least get to know the answers for your own personal resolve.
2006-12-31 13:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would deal with by meeting up with them and if it turns out well start spending more time with them.
2006-12-31 13:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shay J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to deal with it, dont worry to much, after the meeting u'll be glad just try and be calm as possible. good luck and have a happy new year.
2006-12-31 13:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋