After our breakup i didnt talk to my ex for 10 days(but i was always online and he can see me. So it's not like i was totally out of his life for 10 days.). Last night i talked to him online but he still was very cold to me. He left me b/c he wants be single and he doesnt know what he wants. My original plan is cut him off for like a month or 2 but it doesnt seem to be working. Should i still stick to the cut off longer plan? Do u think he'll ever be back?
PS:we are each other's 1st love and i believe he's not gonna find someone else, at least not any time soon(he's not a ladies'man anyways). I guess he just wants to hang out more with his male friends and doesnt have to put efforts into a relationship. Maybe the grass of being single is very much greener for him right now.
2006-12-31 12:48:13 · 10 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think that the cut off plan will make him come back to you. Remember out of sight, out of mind? If you really wanna get him back, don't play hard to get anymore because it might backfire on you and you'll end up getting hurt. Just be honest with him and tell him how you really feel.
As for being each other's first love, it doesn't matter if you're his first or second... he'll move on and find another girl. And if he does while you still have the mentality that he won't be able to find someone like you, you'll be really heartbroken.
Just decide if you really want him back... and if you are willing to work for it.
Good luck dear! I know that this won't be easy for you.
2006-12-31 13:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a bit obsessive with this ordeal. If he cut the ties with you he obviously did it for many reasons, and just because he was your first love it doesn't have to be your last, same with him. Cutting him off will not work in most cases, it just shows that you can get over him. He might come back to you and he also might not, let that be up to him and not you, because it is his love life he should be able to have the freedom of dating who he wishes, under some rational conditions, and the same goes for you.
It just takes time, if he wants you back he will come back, but I would try moving on because its healthier and you will be happier that way.
Good luck, if you so desire in winning him back!
2006-12-31 13:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games and move on. If he wants to be single then let him go. Nothing you say or do can change that. You need to go out and date and forget about the bum. Your only wasting your time with this waiting game. If he doesnt know what he wants now then he's not ready for a relationship and 3 months from now he still won't know what he wants.
2016-03-29 02:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a new screen name & go on line cut him off permantly & if its meant to be it will happen
I lost my first love almost the same way; the time we spent together was great but it was over & I moved on reluctantly & did fine;the hurt is real & it does pass. Yoy have a wonderfull life ahead of you embrace it & remember your experiences for those make you the woman you will become & remember not to have a close mind all men are not the same it just seems that way.
Peter
2006-12-31 12:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by peterhlounsbury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason for a first love is to know what to do and not do to make the second love last longer. Get over this guy and start looking at others around you in order to try again. I think if you have the newest messenger you can set it so that you are invisible to him so don't even let him know you are still around.
2006-12-31 12:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I was in the same situation, me and ex were very much in love, but after a while she started to flirt with someone else, and left me for this guy ..but yet, I still love her after our breakup, she was still on my messenger list ...because, I didn't want to lose her completely in my life, we agreed on not talking for some days ..but, after a while she realized that she can't be not talking to me, she starts, and we start talking again ...but, yet , we do not come back ..!!
for the fact that if cut off communications completely win ex back , I don't know if it always work ...sometimes, yes, it does, but if the person truly knows what he wants , maybe it wouldn't matter to him ...
if he really doesn't want you back, don't force the things, you can't force someone to love you, if he doesn't anymore, later he will maybe realize that he had done a mistake ...and will regret you ...!! u'd better move on, pal ...
Good Luck !!
2006-12-31 13:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by bobby s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested. Move on. I suggest going off-line where he can't see you, so he doesn't know what you are up to. Then get out and start meeting new people. I wouldn't anticipate getting back together with this guy, so just forget about him.
2006-12-31 12:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he knew what he wants.
2006-12-31 12:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Its me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... it usually doesn't work.
2006-12-31 12:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-31 12:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋