I dated this guy for about 2 1/2 months and even though he is still seperated with with his wife he still is legally married to her and he claims she cheated on him and stuff but everytime I am with him thats all he talks about is her and how much she cheated on him but I can't get over him like right now we're not together but I see him and e-mails me like everything is ok help
2006-12-31 12:35:59 · 15 answers · asked by teirra20002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that on the one hand, he should move on, and is only legally married. And not REALLY married.
So, it would seem okay for you to date him. But more importantly, he IS technically married and you both should respect the marriage vows.
I'm not saying that he should get back with her (I dont know them). Just that, if two people are married, then they shouldnt get involved (on any level) with someone else.
(Its a good question you ask. I hope things work out for you and him...for the best)
2006-12-31 12:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through tough time, you complain because you have not heard the stories of tougher time of other people. Storm in your life serves the purpose to bring corrections to make you a better person. Do not think of the storm as a punishment because chastisement is good sometime. When you stop complaining over what she has done or who she is, labeling her, you will have a better life. Sorry to say but the truth is that the more you complain the more you will remain at this stage. I understand your plea but do not expect me to cry with you because I am not an enabler. When you fall down, get up, dust yourself up and keep on walking. That a sign of a real man.
2016-05-23 01:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty. Well it's fine that you are seeing, communicating or seeing him. He is separated, that's not a problem. however what I do see, is that this guy continues to talk about these events and he will not stop any time soon, first he has to heal, then he will relalize that the hole experience was surreal. If u you don't want to be the transitonal girl, I would recommend you to wait untill he is less involved with his soon to be ex-wife.
2006-12-31 12:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by rodeol2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until he is fully separated/divorced, he sounds like he is not really over her! I think it would be really annoying though to be with someone who talks about someone else in front of you and NOT about him and you... I've been there and it made me realize that I wanna go out with somebody who is ready for me if I am sure as hell ready for him, not someone who brings HIS baggage around whenever I am there, someone who could actually talk about what he wants to do with me instead of focusing so much on the past! At the same time, also ask yourself what you truly like about this man, and why you really want to go out with him! It wouldn't be right to go out with him or want to go out with him at this point but it is alright to question yourself and give yourself the answers you NEED! Good luck and take care of yourself!
2006-12-31 12:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by purringout 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he isnt living with her it is but there is always the possibility he may get back with her maybe he was the one that was cheating behind 2 1/2 mounths i would find a single man unless you are desprete or cant do any better
2006-12-31 12:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by deionnie2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl please don't do yourself like that. I know you like this guy but he's still married you don't want marriage problems what if the girl is talking about youre the one who he cheated with? You have to think about those things
2006-12-31 12:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until the divorce. Even after that he might want to have some alone time, I mean put yourself in his shoes if you care about him. How do you think he feels right now?
2006-12-31 12:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to be dating if he can't stop talking about her. Besides, if he were REALLY ready to move on with his life he would have got his divorce and cut his ties. He's keeping one of you as a "back-up plan" I bet. Sorry!
2006-12-31 12:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear that like me, he just isn't ready for a realtionship, but it is cathartic for him to diss his ex. If you can stand his whining it would be good for him, It may not be fair to you, though. That is why I stopped seriously trying to get dates.
2006-12-31 12:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to date a MARRIED guy? Would you want YOUR husband to date another woman, especially his ex?
2006-12-31 12:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋