i don't really talk to the guys. ijust watch them and hang, and silently observe, and gather information.
AM I ODD?
Very few of my friends understand this.
any ideas for what ican say to my friends,a nd i deas to help me get out and talk more?
2006-12-31 12:28:20 · 15 answers · asked by GODZ_BABY_GURL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea it's normal...just try and talk to them as you would any other friend. Start small with guys who you could actually see yourself with as "just friends" status. Once you're comfortable with that, try the same approach with a guy you like. Smile and have him approach you :)
2006-12-31 12:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by abby j 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think that's odd at all. You an observant person and you probably know a lot more than your friends.
Do you! Embrace who you are and once you feel more comfortable then you will be able to open up more and talk. There is nothing wrong with being the quiet friend. Tell your friends to back off. You don't tell them they talk too much so they shouldn't tell you you don't talk enough. I'm sure you can hardly get a word in edgewise.
I hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-12-31 12:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not odd, just shy. I am shy also so can understand the reason behind what you do.
I do not understand what you get out of watching and observing and learning. Watching will teach you only so much and to really know someone you have to talk to them.
No easy way to become more outgoing. It is simply try and keep trying until it becomes second nature. What you will find is people do not expect you to be perfect. Anything you feel like saying is okay. With some exceptions of course.
So practice on talk to people....the more you do the easier it gets.
2006-12-31 12:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all, your not odd, just shy and the reason I know this is becuase this happens to me, only in a different way, it's with women. I am heterosexual, but for someone reason, making new friends has been an issue for me so I understand. Um now what I would suggest you to do, is maybe start of with like a list of questions. Um, for example ... Favorite subject, intresting hobies, life goals.... etc, once you get on the train. men don't like to get off. they feel as though they are important, and @ the same time you continue to gather information. Well let me know if this helps you any.
2006-12-31 12:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by rodeol2001 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not odd. I do the same with women...it's natural to observe and try to understand the opposite sex because we are definitely not the same. If we were all the same, it wouldn't make us man or women.
Maybe you're just a little shy but you grow out of it as you get older.
2006-12-31 12:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mailyahoo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES YES YES!!! Well im naturally a shy person so when i was in a group with guys in it I seriously took mental notes on them! I didn't know anyone else was like this! I tried telling my friends and they all thought it was wierd. But try seeing guys as just normal friends and you should get used to being around them. I am fine with talking to guys now but i still like to observe them and gather info...tee hee :)
2006-12-31 12:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son is shy. He does this. When a girl smiles at him, he takes out a piece of paper, writes down his phone number and gives it to her. If she is interested in him, she calls, they talk on the phone a lot, then they go on a easy date, such as meeting at a movie in the mall. No pressure for either.
2006-12-31 12:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone is their own person, if thats your style, your friends should understand that. you can watch and observe, but my advice to you would be, jump into the conversation everynow and then so these boys dont look at you 10 years down the road, and go, oh, theres the quiet girl. but if thats your style, like i said, go for it, no matter what your style is, youll find the one thats right for you, and if you dont approach him, he'll approach you. dont change yourself for someone else!!
2006-12-31 12:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by S. Banana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, u just hang in there! Thats what i do around my friends too. Personally i dont want the "flirty" types.. I look for the shyer types.
2006-12-31 12:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by brock 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Slam into some guy and make believe someone pushed you. If he likes you at all, it should work. That's how my gf got me.
2006-12-31 12:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Benji 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋