Hi all, I Would be grateful if you could provide some feedback/advice on a situation I'm in, as I'm pretty unsure what to do next. I started work at a new company earlier this year and was introduced to a colleague a few years older than me a a more senior position. I could see from his eyes there were signs of interest there and as time wore on he started to take the piss out of me a bit when in our office, this developed a few months later into saying some really nice things, I suppose half jokingly, but I got compliments on my outfits etc. Plus he'd then follow me outside when I went for a ciggie break and chat. Howvever I went away for a week in last month and since then he's been a little distant - I did resolve to ask him out but when I attempted he seemed to walk away. I saw him christmas shopping a few weeks ago and said hi and gave him the biggest smile I could but didn't get much more than a half sarky response ( he was with a friend - male). Not sure what to do next???????
2006-12-31 12:21:05 · 18 answers · asked by Wessex gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah I do really like him and kind of got the impression that he may be the jealous possesive kind also, but all in all he seemed a really nice kind of guy, but you guys are making me think differently.
Many thanks for your responses and all the best in 2007 to all who have taken the time to respond x
2006-12-31 12:41:03 · update #1
don't pay attention to this man. He seems to think this it's a joke, which it shouldn't be. He was probably just flirting with you and thought he was just having fun. You don't need him anyways. You seem to be a career-oriented, intelligent woman and shouldn't take seriously what some man who thinks he is the hot-shot says or does. I hate to be harsh, but if he was interested in pursuing a relationship with you, he would have done it a while ago. Don't worry though. You are better than him. Best of luck to you in the coming new year.
2006-12-31 12:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it drop. He was interested in you before but from his actions now it was only temporary or he had other motives in mind (perhaps a quick hump in the photocopy store room or something) I wouldn't be bothering yourself about it as it seems he is really not worth the effort Office romances can be a little tricky sometimes and cause a few headaches.
2006-12-31 12:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful if he's in your "chain of command." Do you report to him for your job performance? Dating people in your work place can be tricky. I once knew a couple in two different shops who were dating. They had a falling out, and because they were supervisors of the shops the productivity between the shops suffered. Also, there can be talk of 'favoritism' if he is in a position senior to you. As far as his seeming to snub you, maybe he's afraid of getting burned due to his senior position if he gets involved with you.
2006-12-31 12:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had the warmies for you but you didn't act on it fast enough. I'd leave it alone. Work relationships with aomeone higher in the food chain, aren't really a good idea anyway. At least not if you are planning on staying any amount of time.
2006-12-31 12:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is apparently mad at you about your leaving for a few days.which is a very good sign that even though you 2 are'nt really togather that hes controlling and possessive, so if i were you i would do nothing absolutely nothing if the dude wanted me he'd have to work on it meaning what ever is bothering him dont chase him thats not very respectful and the guy might even be a little scary if hes upset you left for a few days.
2006-12-31 12:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, what happened? do you really like him? if so perhaps when you find an appropriate situation, ask him, "U used to be so friendly but you seem a bit distant now, what has happened?"
maybe he thought when you went away you went with a bf.
In anycase, don't force him to change back, that makes things worse.let it develop naturally.
maybe ask him if he'd like to go for a drink?
2006-12-31 12:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to suggest you leave well enough alone. Move on with someone whom you do not work with. I bet he was just interested enough to see how far you would let him go and then drop you like a bad habit. SO MOVE ON SWEETIE there are much better fish in the sea !
2006-12-31 13:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone had said somthing to him in a higher up position about the sexual laws of work or maybe your work has a policy of no relations between employees would have to be my only guess or theres one more thing HE'S GAY you just never know hope it helps
2006-12-31 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Travis S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't chase him and don't upset yourself by the way he is reacting to you. Just go along doing your own thing and wait and see what his next move is. If he makes no next move then just forget it and leave the idea alone and don't dwell on it.
Happy New Year :-)
xx
2006-12-31 14:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was just playing with you. If he was really interested he would of said something to u. He probably found another female to play head games with. You deserves better than a joker and bad player.
2006-12-31 12:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by i_shout_plz_care_4_each_other 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋