Do you ever think,whats the point in going on?

Question

I know my depression is making me think this way but my life is so meaningless and empty. Anxiety has prevented me to move furthur in life and now i feel trapped. The man i love has been cold and distant with me and i'm starting to believe he just used me for sex and that has made me feel worse. My mom has mental issues and has attempted suicide many times,my dad died last year and i blame myself that i didnt go and visit him instead of being selfish thinking of myself. I feel like i'm living each day for no apparant reason. The only thing that makes me happy is when i think about not being here any longer. What should i do?i dont want to die but i dont want to live either.

Answer 1

I reckon it's being so cheerful as keeps you going....
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Answer 2

There's always a reason to go on if you think about it.
A few years I was thinking of leaving this life but then I read in a paper that there was going to be a new series of Doctor Who (my favourite show) and Idecided that I wanted to live a few months more just to see the series (pathetic of me I know). And I waited and the show was eventually on TV and it was great and now I can't go until I know how it all ends. Plus after 10 years I am finally coming to the end of a long period of depression.

There's no easy answers, half the time there are no answers. The trick to coping with life is to just concentrate on one tiny goal at once and do that. There is always something worth looking forward to.

How about getting a pet? A cat or a dog. The pet will need you and you will take care of it. It will be a good and loyal friend and you will find your own worth when you realise that you can make a real difference to just one life. I wish I had a cat.

Answer 3

IMPORTANT WARNING!

You are your mother will need urgent help. I don't know if you have clinical depression and whether if this is the case it can be inherited, but this needs urgent attension.

Click here http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Your fathers death will contribute to the way you feel and you can get help to cope with this (you cannot get over it, but you can cope with it).

Feeling selfish could be caused by things such as other people blaming you for everything, the depression it's self or maybe something else.

It may be a good idea to think about a new start with another man if you find you cannot stay with him or he leaves you; he trouble is the arguements that this will cause and you would need help to prevent this. Maybe writting a letter is a good idea.
A new start would be a good idea since you will have someone who you can comfort you later.

You probably have no friends, which is something that gives people a sense of piontlessness.

You and your mother will probably be feeling similar things. So you BOTH need to see this site.
If your mother refuses to see this, then this is something that you should take up with the peopel on the website.

All the things that I mentioned that you need to sort out with these people are things that your mother needs to sort out with them also. Not all these things may definatly apply.

Welcome to 2007 and a new start!
This is your ticket and I hope this is sucsessful.

Answer 4

Most people feel depressed at some time in their lives, and with all you've had to contend with recently, it's no surprise you're depressed. Depression comes and goes, but it does go, so be patient. Don't go on holiday, to a party or any of those "cheer up" things, they inevitably make you feel worse, guilty for not enjoying yourself and more conscious of your predicament. Instead, do calm and gentle things: warm baths, early nights, hot chocolate, re-read favourite books (if you don't have one, try "I Capture the Castle" by Dodie Smith) listen to favourite songs and sing along. Get a pedometer and try to walk outside every day - here's a really friendly website for pedometer enthusiasts (uncommercial and free, not selling anything) if you feel up to it.

http://walk.ideacog.net

What you want is to gently raise your seratonin levels. And do call the Samaritans, they are great.

Something else which helped me was keeping a journal and pouring it all out. Write letters to your Dad in it.

Remember, you are not your Mother, you are you. You are a good daughter, but you have your own, very different life to live, your own destiny to follow.

And remember - this too will pass

Answer 5

There is some reason you have been put on this earth and I think you need to find out what it is. Sometimes I feel so down and out and depressed too, like when I think about the guy I love, I have loved him for a while now and still I am not with him, it really hurts me and makes me depressed, also there are many other things that really depresses me, but I always seem to find a reason to be happier. You just need to find something to live for and I know theres a reason that everyone has been put here. If this doesnt help then you need to go get some professional help.

Answer 6

I often think 'What's the point of going on?'

This time last year I was organising my stepfathers funeral. Two of my sisters had breast cancer and Sue, the elder of the two, had been given three months to live. My friend Sarah was diagnosed with Leukemia and as a mixed race woman had a 100 to one chance of finding a match for a a transplant. The love of my life ended our relationship without warning. I had my own cancer scare when my smear test showed abnormalities. My new boss hated me with a vengence.

God, reading the above has made me realise just how difficult things were. Like you, I was depressed, but I was trying to keep a brave face on for everyone else. I often felt that life was meaningless and empty and I felt isolated and alone.

The reason you are feeling like you do is because lots of horrible things have happened to you. You have the right to feel sad.and depressed. However, you are also ill, depression is an illness, so, like you would if you broke a leg or something, get yourself to a doctor and call the Samaritans if you feel desperate and need someone to talk to right now.

If I had acted on my feelings last year I wouldn't have been here to celebrate a new year with people who love me.

My sister, who was supposed to be dead in March is alive and kicking, her recent scans show she is in remission, the cancer in her lungs and liver has disappeared. She is also the proud grandmother to three grandchildren who were born this year (Last year she wept because she thought she would never be a grandmother) My second sister is looking forward to reconstructive surgery in February (two new boobs and a tummy tuck as a bonus) My mum survived the loss of her husband and was at a party tonight seeing in the new year. My friend Sarah found her match and is now recovering after a successful bone marrow transplant. My nasty boss resigned and after a tiny operation I was given the all clear as far as cancer was concerned. The lover? Well, he is still around, (I probably should have given him the elbow ..... but I love him :-)

I know my life can't change your life but I hope it can help you to see that things change. Last year I was in the depths of dispair, tonight I spent an evening with people who love me, drank Champagne and sit here looking forward to a Happy New Year.

Get to a doctor, get some help, and write to me next year and let me know how happy you are.

Good Luck and A Happy New Year.

Sparky x.

Answer 7

I could write a book for the crap I've been through in my life. I know, I know, everybody has something worse and it makes yours look trivial. I'm really not making light of how you are feeling, but seriously.....I could be the poster child for family dysfunction! I had times when I considered getting out...but just like you, living was the better option. You do feel that way! You wouldn't be here talking about it if you didn't. Trust me, there is life out there beyond depression. TAKE THE STEPS to find it. Whatever works for you...whatever lifts you out of it, stick with it. I look back now of how I could have let circumstances hurt me and I'm so glad I chose to be different and not wallow in them. Now, I wake up......good or bad.....I say Life bring it on! I think it's interesting just to see what each day brings.
Learn to laugh. Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha WORLD, you are not going to ruin me!!!

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so low. You have had a lot to contend with what with your dad passing away and your mother being ill. I think you are be very brave to cope with all of these things. It might not feel like it now, but life can take turns like this, and you will be surprised how it will suddenly improve for you.
The fact that you have asked this question on Yahoo means you are taking steps to make your life better by dealing with the problem. If you have not done so already, you need to see your GP about your depression. If you get put on anti-depressents and get counsilling you will be amazed how quickly they can turn things round for you.
This time next year this depression will be all but a distant memory.

Answer 9

I feel like this from time to time, but you gotta believe that life can't get any worse if you feel like you're at your worse. You can't beat yourself up for not seeing your father before he passed. I think because of your mother being so depressed as well you have developed depression as well. Thats what happened to. My mother also has mental issues and has to take more than 10 different kinds of medications to be able to seem "normal" everyday. I have developed depression as well but I have to keep going for myself and my son. I suggest you get counseling as soon as possible.

As far as your relationship with your boyfriend goes...I would get rid of him. If you're not happy, then you can't make anyone else happy either. If you feel like he's using you for sex then you really need to get rid of him. You don't need anyone to use you for your body. If he's acting distant and cold then thats a big enough sign to let you know he's not the guy for you. Right now you need to be thinking about yourself and getting yourself to a happy state.

YOU ARE WORTH LIVING!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

I used to think that way, sometimes when I was a teenager. But I always knew that I didn't want to throw God's gift of life back in his face. I thought that if my life was too bad I could always get on a train and start a new life somewhere else. I have been to psychiatrists, counsellors and doctors for my struggle with depression, they all bring amazing relief in different ways. The best help was when I got to know more about God. I learnt many things from bible study; God made me and he doesn't make mistakes, he is my perfect father, he doesn't want me to feel guilty, he loves all of his children and I am one of them, so are you. I have recently discovered that anxiety is the main reason for my depression. Go to www.drphill.com for advice for relieving anxiety. Know that God has a purpose for you even if you don't know what it is. Look for ways to bring joy into your life. Best wishes.

Answer 11

Depression is a very bad thing,and can make you feel this way,but nothing should make you want to commit suicide,nobody has the right to make you feel bad, that can only happen if you allow it to happen, you have got to remember life is about choices,think positive and were you want be in 5 years time, you can make good things happen for yourself,think positive,be strong, theirs a big beautiful world out there and it needs you to participate, Keep The Chin up