Does a 'swat' teach anything to a preschooler? What other tactics can I use with a 4 year old whose tantrum has escalated out of control?
2006-12-31 12:05:20 · 18 answers · asked by Kiejrstin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If it is just for a tantrum, a spanking may/may not work. Just put them in their room & pretend to ignore them. Just carry on with whatever you were doing. When a child throws a tantrum it is to get attention so let them know they aren't going to get it & they stop. This may need to be done more than once before the child gets the idea but does work. When my kids were at that age, I gave them a few min. to vent then informed them they had been mad long enough so if it continued I would give them something to be mad about...& I did...a couple of good little swats on their bottoms. It did take care of it for the time being but it took more than once to do it that way too. If you're out in public, take them to the car (don't inflict their tantrums on other people). Do not allow them to go back in wherever you were even if they promise to "be good". They need to know that there are consequences for their actions. Once they are calm (attn. spans aren't too long at this age) take them somewhere else but not back into the place you left. The whole key to teaching children anything is consistancy. Never threaten them with something you're not going to follow through with. Once they know where you keep your goat, they'll get it every time they can.
2006-12-31 12:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by mazell41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does work.
Ignore everyone who says spanking is wrong or anything. If you look at the countries where spanking is not allowed, they have murders as young as 12 years old. I think there is some connection.
Yes a swat every now and then, when nothing else works will get a preschoolers attention. As long as you don't do it to much or have it go out of control.
2006-12-31 12:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spanking is only effective if done consistently and properly. You don't want to beat your child but you do want to spank them hard enough that they do not want to repeat the offense. A swat, while usually appropriate for a younger child is not much of a deterrant for an older one. Don't let it go any further.
OK, swatting and spanking is not to "release YOUR anger", it is to teach the child appropriate behavior and that there will be consequences when they act up or disobey.
2006-12-31 12:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by jess1978 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spanking does not help because it only hurts for a little while, make a lasting impression, also some parents get out of control with the spanking thing. The best thing to do is get down to their level and make them look you in the face and explain to them that you are very disappointed in them and tell them that this is just a warning and the next time it will be timeout(preferably in a corner of a room where they can see everyone doing things but cannot participate). Not in their room because all their things are in there. Don`t yell at them because then they know that they can get you mad by doing things. Talk to them calm(hard as it may be sometime). PATIENCE IS THE BEST POLICY. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-31 12:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your toddler is pushing limits and becoming to be his own individual. If he needs to positioned on yellow footwear, Why not basically enable him? it somewhat is going to intend lots to him to be waiting to %. out his own outfits and truthfully whats the version to you. So what in the adventure that your youngster has a green outfit on with yellow footwear?? As for the do not consume the cookie and then he eats it... i could use day out. Or positioned the cookies the place he can not attain them!? If it gets to the factor the place he's basically thoroughly ignoring what you're saying i could provide him a pair company swats while he misbehaves, yet you apart from would would desire to be somewhat lenient and enable him be a toddler.
2016-10-19 07:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the child. I tried the spanking thing with my son and he just laughed at me, so, now he sits in the corner without anyone to talk to that works very well, because he is a people person.
2006-12-31 12:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by TransDude78 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately Yes!
Sometimes the preschoolers get into a bit of a funk and then you just can't get through to them..
But start off by lowering your voice when speaking to them....it forces them to stop yelling, speaking, crying to hear you.
If that doesn't work...a startling but not abusive swat to the butt usually snaps them out of it.
2006-12-31 12:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To tell you the truth, the children I know who are not spanked are some of the worst behaved children I have ever come across. They are extremely unruly, have no respect for their parents or any authority for that matter, and don't take discipline seriously.
I am all for spanking. People try and convince me that spanking is wrong, meanwhile their children are running around like wild animals.
2006-12-31 12:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No!!! Spanking is not an effective discipline for preschoolers. You will just offend and disappoint them.
2006-12-31 12:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is always that temptation to swat a child, but that only gives us a temporary release of our anger. For my own children, the best method I found was time out....sit him/her in a spot with little activity for the amount of minutes that equals their age. If you are out in public, that is not an option. I always reasoned with my kids, and rarely had trouble with them in public. Talk, talk, talk to them, but be consistent. Enforce what you say and don't ever give in, because once you do, they know how to get by your discipline.
2006-12-31 12:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋