I have a flexible job, and we stay home together 3 days in a row, that 4th day she seems very very upset, crying, screaming, etc when taken to the babysitter or even gramma's house, any suggestions?
2006-12-31 11:56:54 · 8 answers · asked by Katie L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I remember those days. When I took my children to the sitter's house, they gave Oscar performances of being deserted. (guilt, guilt, guilt) The sitter said the children would usually cry themselves to sleep. When they woke up, it was as though nothing had ever happened.
Is Daddy in the picture? My husband could take our children to the sitter's house without a whimper out of them. Needless to say, Hubby took the kids to the sitter when we figured this out.
2006-12-31 12:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I feel for you! I have a 2 year old (and a 3 1/2 year old). The best thing that works for me is when I have to leave to go somewhere w/out the kids (I'm a stay at home mom) I make sure that they know that I am going and I give them a kiss and let my husband preoccupy them. For an example take them to go do laundry, help with dishes or play a puzzle. It always works. Then they are fine about it. That is what I would have the babysitter or your mom do! Good Luck!!! And have a great New Year!
2006-12-31 20:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On days you work, let her know beforehand where she'll be going (gramma's or the babysitter's) and let her know that you'll be leaving. This will give her a "fair warning" instead of just dropping her off at grandma's and leaving.
Tell her things like "You're going to grandma's today..you're going to have so much fun!" Ask her "What are you going to do at grandma's?" This might help her think of that special toy at grandma's that she likes to play with or that silly song grandma sings to her and she'll look forward (somewhat) to going to grandma's for the day.
Let her take a stuffed animal or other toy with her. Being dropped off at someplace that isn't home can be scary and having a "piece of home" with her such as a toy can help relieve her fears.
When you're getting ready to leave, make your exit quick. Give her a hug and a "see you later" and leave. Don't stand there forever cuddling her and waiting for her to calm down. The quicker the exit the better because the longer you are standing there leaving the longer she'll be thinking about you leaving.
When you pick her up after work, ask about her day. Ask "What did you have for lunch?" and "What toys did you play with?" She'll have fun talking about her day and your interest in what she did with grandma will show her that it's okay to be away from mom.
2006-12-31 20:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I prefer that my daughter chooses me and not others. Especially my mom-in-law who would just love to be able to raise her. I love the fact that my daughter would rather be in my arms than any other. Cherish the moments while they last. One day she will be too cool to even hug in public. I am a stay at home mom, married, and owns a house, and my mom-in-law thinks she should have more to do with our daughter, but I didn't choose to have a child just so I could put her in the hands of others to be raised. I prefer to spend every day with her than think it's a burden to just go grocery shopping and have to leave her with grandma. I honestly don't mind bringing her with. Besides, she can learn as I shop, like colors, fruits...
2006-12-31 22:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by suncitysarah2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 and a half year old is doing the same thing right now, dont worry about it. Chances are that this is just a show to see if you will stay. The most important thing is to be honest with her and let her know that you will be back. She will learn to deal with it. Dont let her know that it bothers you or she will keep it up.
2006-12-31 20:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probley just a phase my daughter went through the whole stranger danger and would freak out if i was out of sight. my best advice is just get her intrested in something before you leave and don't make a big deal over you leaving don't bother with a goodbye kiss if it is going to upset her. good luck
2006-12-31 20:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is thinking that its going to be just the two of you then she is probably taken back into the routine, she has to get used to it
2006-12-31 20:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have to do to stay home. Your child need you.
2006-12-31 20:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Eye Candy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋