My ex broke up with me 6 months ago, and since I just can't forget him he did it over the phone I asked him to meet and have a sit down talk about it but he refused after the break up he used to pick up the phone when I call but then he just stopped to answer my calls I can't forget him his birthday was last week I called with restricted number but could not talk to him, I was afraid from a rejection. now I m thinking about him again i dont know if I want to be with him , I just know that I still love him, and I think if he gave a chance to talk it would be easier for me i reqlly want to talk to him but he just does not give me a chance for some reason
should I call him
2006-12-31 11:53:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you want him back but he is not interested....why not send him an email or a text and see if he responds....if not then leave him alone and move on_
2006-12-31 11:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Once a relationship is over and you are getting no respond in return, then there is a time where you should just call it quits and move on. He is obviously not interested in calling you back or contacting you. Maybe your love has become an obsession, and if you are afraid of a rejection then you are just lowering yourself to this guy. Can't show weakness and that is what he probably wants from you, some men enjoy it and is sickening. You can do better than this guy you "still" love. Keep yourself occupied look for someone else show him that your are happy without him and you can live without him. You don't need him, you just want him, I am sure that you already know that. so with this take care and happy new year, best of wishes finding that someone special in 2007... :)
2006-12-31 12:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by escvelocity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation very much like yours about... nearly 6 years ago! I remember feeling so miserable without him, even suicidal because during the time that we were together, he lied to me and gave me so much hope and even feigned wanting to marry me and buy me a ring! I even called him about EIGHT MONTHS after we broke up, begging for him back! That phone call lasted for an hour and the entire time he was just acting irritated and then hurting me and rejecting me! Now that I look back, I wish I didn't give him the benefit of having his ego inflated by my begging, desperation, loneliness, and putting him on a pedestal that, in reality, he never deserved to step on!
You seem very sad, especially since you keep asking this same question but please, for your own sanity and for your own self, don't call him or else he will look down on you even more, he will probably secretly laugh at how much you have suffered just because of what a "great guy" (ugh) he is and if he really wanted to give you closure, he would have given it to you a long time ago instead of half a year later!
2006-12-31 13:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can drive you crazy when someone does not want to give you any resolution. However, calling him is only making it worse. Try to keep telling yourself that there's nothing you did wrong. It's him just trying to move on. He's likely just trying to do what's best for you and allow you to start the healing process, rather than talking and dragging it out. It's best to accept it that way and think of him all you want, but go ahead and assume that calling him is off limits. Time heals all things. Be good to yourself and treat yourself to something nice- even if you don't feel like it at first, you'll be glad you did afterwards.
2006-12-31 11:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He chose to do less than a gentlemanly thing and broke up with you on the phone. Do not continue to look to him to satisfy you on any level. He will not sit down with you and discuss the issue. He will not take your phone calls. This does not mean you are not a worthy person. He simply is not interested. Process or think through the relationship, sort out your feelings, let time heal the hurt, and move on with your life. Pursuing him seems futile at this point. In doing so, you are perpetuating your suffering.
2006-12-31 11:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you've got to forget about him and move on. He doesn't want you in his life and he's made that abundantly clear. There are many other men out there who would love to have the chance to know you and will treat you with the respect you deserve. This guy is treating you like garbage. Keep your last shred of dignity and self-respect and DO NOT call him or attempt to contact him again. He is not the last man on earth. There really are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find a man who will treat you right. Don't settle for being treated like crap. You deserve better!
2006-12-31 11:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't.
I just got back together with an ex (long story short its forever, he has cancer, hopefully he gets better, and then happily every after). So I'm not saying it doesn't ever happen. Exes can get back together, it took us over a year. We never stopped talking though and we were friends the whole time.
This is one where it sounds like it's not meant to happen and you are pushing him away harder every time you try to contact him. I've been there too. I know it's hard to let go. You have to. When you do it will feel so good.
Find something else to distract you.
2006-12-31 12:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by choice478 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you should not call him. I know how hard it is, but the way you are explaining this situation leads me to believe that he doesn't want to be with you. I, too, have been in this situation and it took me a long time to realize that. Each day you hold off on calling him will be easier. Some days will be harder than others, but stay strong. Do not call him. You will eventually find something else to fill your time with - another man or something else. Doesn't have to be a man. But this isn't the right one for you.
2006-12-31 12:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by SelfGrill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should call him...i just got out of a 4 yr relationship with my gf a few weeks ago and it was the hardest thing ever to not call, but now that i didn't i feel a lot better about myself because i know that if i had called i would have been put down and the pain would only start over again...it's so hard to do, but i think you should try your best to realize he's not for you and try your best to move on...i know it sucks but yea
2006-12-31 11:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He seems to have given you every indication that he does not want to talk. Maybe if you sit down and write him a letter that says everything you are feeling, it will give you some closure. In any case, it really sounds like you need to find a way to move on, as difficult as that will be.
2006-12-31 11:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but you sound like a very affectionate girl with a sensitive heart.
I recommend you don't call him. You need space from him and time with friends. I recommend exactly this. I hope you have many friends, but I'll bet there's one that would love to spend time with you.
I know it's not easy to believe sometimes, but when you least expect it someone will show up right in front of you.
Do me a favor. Don't ever compromise. Await the knight in shining armor who sets his life aside for yours and loves you with an undying love. Then you will see yourself as the princess that you are.
2006-12-31 12:02:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋