My girlfriend left me , just because I didn't join her spiritual path ..would you say it is a good reason ?

Question

My gf spent months arguing with me , and put me in a position where if I don't join her spiritual path, she can't be with me ...because, it's important for her ...and for my case, I also had a spiritual path, I am or I was dedicated to that I can't abandon like that or mixed with something else ...I told her that I am gonna think about it ...and I also told her, in the purpose of doing this sacrifice for the relationship, I would like to do it, but I need time to distance myself from my spiritual path in order to be able to join hers with a free mind ..it's true that I had taken 3 months to think about it, and nothing come have comed out in terms of decision, I was constantly indecisive about whether or not I should change that much just for her ... When she saw that, she began flirt with another another who accept immediately to get into her spiritual and left me for this guy ...Would you it is a good thing from her ..? b/c I was doing my best to join her, but she disn't understand ..

Answer 1

You know, the deep down stuff is very hard to change - and for some, a shared spiritual outlook is a deal breaker. It sounds like you both tried to make it work for a good long time, but ultimately she has learned that she needs one of her own faith and what have you learned? I hope that you have learned to be true to yourself and to not let anyone else bully you into changing your core beliefs.

My husband and I are from some would consider dramatically different backgrounds - he is catholic and I am much more new age in my beliefs - but we have found a way to be together and honor each other's personal beliefs, and have found a lot of common ground in what we think is important and what this existence is all about.

For your gf it was a good reason to end the relationship - for me and my husband, it is not. You will have to decide for yourself on a case-by-case basis. It's a shame that things didn't work out this time, but remember that each failed relationship helps us hone our search for the ideal mate - and the new is always better than the old. As terrific as this girl was, then next will be even better.

Peace!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You should be on whatever spiritual path works best for you...it is about your own personal journey in life, not copying your girlfriend's point of view because she gave you an ultimatum. If she is so eager to change you, then she is most likely not right for you. Plus, do you really want to be with someone who runs to someone else the second your gone?

Answer 4

Not knowing the paths you each chose, i can only speak from my own. The Bible says:

1 Corinthians 7:13-15
13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

While I realize you aren't married. I would say, "move on". Of all the traits that might be tough to get over, the spiritual belief is the toughest.

I suggest just going on with life. In your journey, let "the one" show up on her own. When she does, you will know and it will be worth the wait.

Answer 5

If a person needs you to change, then that person is not for you.
Unconditional love is a fabulous thing, but very hard to achieve. spirituality should be in common or very close to it, for a relationship to thrive & grow. Happy New Year and look for a new love who likes you as you are & you can grow together.

Answer 6

She was being pretty unrealistic. "I want you to change your beliefs if you want to be with me" isn't going to cut it. If you'd given in, you'd have most likely been converting for show.

Good on ya for staying true to yourself.

Is it a good reason? Anything that one of you thinks is a dealbreaker is a good reason, be it spiritual path or choice of toothpaste. We all decide what we can and can't live with.

She thought it was a good reason. Wish her well and move on.

Answer 7

You shouldn't change who you are, for anyone. You need to do what you need to do, just like she needs to do what she needs to do.... the only reason you should change what you are doing, is if its not working for you.

There are many reasons we are with people too-like to learn a lesson; your spiritual choice is very important to you and you need to follow your heart, not a girl.

There is probally a girl, within your faith, waiting for you...it may be fate taking you from the wrong girl in the wrong religion, to the right girl in your chosen religion....???

Answer 8

We all have a path to take, wether it's spiritual or not, and for someone to try and force you to choose theirs, is wrong and selfish. You can't expect to become your own person if you follow someone elses path. Do what's right for you, and leave her alone. If she couldn't wait for you, she wasn't the right person for you.

Answer 9

Whatever is important to a person is important to a person.

IF her "spiritual path" is that vital to her, then she'd have never been truly happy with you. If you love her, your first concern is her happiness.

Let her go.

Answer 10

that was extemely selfish of her, not to mention misguided. You are far better off - look at her actions after this? Is that who you wanted to be with, who would make you happy? Forget her she sounds like an unrounded fanatic, and not very smart either.