Im 18 and my boyfriend is 19 he is out of school but he still stays with his mama do you think it would be okay for us to move in together?
2006-12-31 11:47:44 · 12 answers · asked by Lil Bit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's ok with you, then it's ok. You can legally do whatever you want. I moved in with my boyfriend right after I turned 18. We've been struggling ever since. It's definitely not easy, and the financial difficulties can make it harder on your relationship. Plus, if you decide it isn't working out, will you be able to move back home, or make it on your own? If you think you still want to move in together, consider everything, take a look at what you would both be doing for work, go into it with a definite budget that allows you both to save money individually as well as for your house, have a plan for if things don't work out, never let it be ok for either of you to stop contributing to the bills and housework, plan out who will do what housework and when. Make the best choice based on where you want to be and what you want to be doing in the next 5-10 years, not just on how you feel now. If you will have to give up on school or anything else that's really important to you in order to live with him, then it's not worth it, you can always live together in a few years, when he won't come between you and your goals.
2006-12-31 11:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. I move out when I was 18 and a senior in high school and I also worked part time. But I had a lot of support and help from my dad and fiancé. And now two years later fiancé and I still live together, pay our own bills, and are doing just fine. But..... I have good friends who don't get arrested. His friends are going to be his downfall and he'll be either begging to come back or he'll be living on the street doing hardcore drugs. But he is 18 and there's not much you can really do about it.
2016-05-23 01:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think you need to find out why you are attracted to a boy who should be a man by now. Why doesn't he have a job and his own place? The only excuse for a man to live at home is that he has to take care of his sick/dying mom or he's in school full time.
2006-12-31 11:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i dont think that you should move with your boyfriend because moving with him might take your focus off your school work and you are a senior in high school and you need all your focus on doing your best on your work and when you graduate then you can move in with him because then you will have time for him more.
2007-01-02 16:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by sexyandfly662 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It would probably result in both of you depending on his mother who is already trying to dedice how to make this young man grow up and take full responsibility for his own welfare. Having you there with him will only complicate the problem and possibly create new ones(for example: getting pregnant). You need to achieve full independence from "mommas". Complete your preparation for the career you decide to gain your financial freedom with first. Get your own living quarters, independently of any boy or his momma and then find a man who is independent, like you who can make his own decisions based on his individual circumstances and yours. Leave third parties out of that scenario.
2006-12-31 11:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lives with his mom then no because you two will never have any privacy with his mom living there. You both should just get a job so you guys could get an apartment.
2006-12-31 11:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait. Why don't you two try and get an apartment together instead of moving in with him and his mom!
2006-12-31 11:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still with his mom? pretty sad, no, wait a little while, trust me. i've made that mistake and you'll be glad that u didn't. save money and get ur only place, u don't need to depend on ANYONE. good luck
2006-12-31 11:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not if he lives with his mom. you both should try and save up your money and get an appertment together, and then move in with each other as soon as possiable. just dont live with his mom.
2006-12-31 11:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear, you have your whole life ahead of you. Take it slow and see what happens.
2006-12-31 11:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by cheri_chevelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋