he won't let go. He is so crazy about me. I have talked to him, and i basicly told him, he's a good guy, but i dont thing that we are good for each other. I'm always yelling at him, and he's always hard headed. I just feel that sometimes we are trying to hold on to something thats not suppose to be. But, everytime I try to talk to him about it, he cries, walks off, pleads,,,so my heart gives in, and im off to the drawing board, to try and find away to make it work. I'm very confused, can we work this out, and if not, well how do i leave?
2006-12-31 11:31:05 · 13 answers · asked by trudywannabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
O.K. Here it is. You have 2 choices. You do what he wants and you (and he) are miserable. Other option... You walk away and make your life like you want it to be. Are you afraid of him? If so, there are other options. You have to be strong enough to make the right choice for YOUR future. I didn't, and it took me 8 years to get out. I don't want that for you. Don't waste your life. Follow your instincts, please..
2006-12-31 11:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a song written about this subject: "Breaking up is hard to do" it is not supposed to be easy, and rarely ever is. It sounds like you are seeing "handwriting on the wall", and even though you adore this person, you know deep down it is not working and was not meant to be. You gave it a shot, 3 Years is a fair and reasonable time to make it work. If it is not working now, what make him (or you) think it will get BETTER? Be honest with each other, and dont go out of your way to hurt each other in the process. Good Luck to you both.
2006-12-31 11:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may't substitute him and he does not opt to alter. He has some valid factors approximately you from what you wrote. You sound so controlling and jealous in what you wrote. you may't make a courting paintings by using not accepting the different guy or woman for who they're. you have in fact complained approximately him thoughout your letter. this is purely approximately like if he could do exactly issues my way each and every thing could be fantastic. existence is unlike that and human beings are unlike that. He in all probability does sense some freedom to be who he's now.
2016-12-11 20:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by lot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a New Year so you must resolve this. There is no point continuing in a relationship if you feel that it is going nowhere - have you considered counselling or just have a break from each other. Go on a holiday without him and see how you feel when you get back, but please see a therapist as I am afraid that your partner has a problem. Good luck.
2006-12-31 11:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone is saying, he knows if he cries, you'll give in because you don't want to hurt him. Basically he knows he's living on borrowed time so it's time to end it. You're going to hurt him. There's no way around that. You guys can't work anything out because you're already mental out of there. In the long run, you both will be fine. He'll move on.
2006-12-31 11:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been in the relationship for three years. You've tried. If it's not working, it's better to end it now then to waste more years trying to fix something that is unfixable. Tell him, leave and don't look back or he'll just suck you back in again. It's really the kindest thing you can do.
2006-12-31 11:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question to answer is why you are not happy? Did you love him or were you just infatuated with him? If you loved him, then there is hope. If not then you need to fess up to him and yourself and then go on. If it is because of outside influences, then you need to deal with those things. If it is because of actions of your guy, then give it to him plainly. Tell him what he is doing that is turning you off. Give him a chance to turn his drama in to action. If that doesn't work, then walk away with your head high because you treated him with honesty and respect.
2006-12-31 11:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about him. It's about "YOU". If you have tried and tried and it still won't work, then you need to let go and move on with your life. He is not the one for you. Stop feeling sorry for him and move on. He will be fine. All men cry when you are ready to leave them and we always for for it like suckers. But trust me, you are wasting your time and in the end you will only be mad at yourself for doing so
2006-12-31 11:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it . you shouldnt waste any more time. you will regret it. the same thing happened to me except i was married to the man which makes things a lot harder. i just had to do it . it hurt me so much . everyone thought we was perfect for each other and he didnt deserve it, but sometimes you have to just stop and think about yourself for a minute. he deserves someone who really wants to be with him anyway. good luck
2006-12-31 11:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by tarahabear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What have you got left to base a relationship on?
It's not healthy to continue like this, walk away!
2006-12-31 11:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by government slave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋