After searching forums and talking with people, I have concluded that I don't want to really date because I've never slept with anyone. I really think that this the BIGGEST reason why.
I was brought up to wait and I really wanted to but now I feel like if someone knew that I was then they wouldn't want to date me. So instead of being rejected all the time I just figured that I should stay single.
I mean I'm trying to finish up my graduate school so I can start my career, but I feel that when I'm done I'll be like 24-25 years old and that it would be to late for me.
Any thoughts because I'm sick of everyone saying to wait and such and that someone will come along that will accept you for who you are but I'm finding that a bunch of load.
2006-12-31 11:25:31 · 12 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got bags of time. Relax. You might want to begin dating casually so as not to adversely impact your studies.
Keep one thing in mind, I find that most men don't like it when a woman has spent her 20's and 30's working on her career and suddenly wants 2 kids. No guy wants the biological time bomb.... really.
2006-12-31 11:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that when people say it will happen when you least expext it, but it really does. Things can happen to you when you're not looking for them. Look at it this way. You've completed grad school, so you're obviously a motivated and soon to be successful individual. Be confident in that. People notice confidence in others. Don't worry so much about the sex thing. I know quite a few people who waited until marriage for sex and they are some of the happiest people I know.
The more you sit there and dwell on being a virgin and worrying about what someone will think the more it IS going to hold you back. You are what you are, and be proud of what you are. The decisions you've made and the actions you've taken (or not taken) are what makes you who you are. There are women out there that respect conviction like that out of a man. Keep on keepin' on and you WILL find someone, just don't focus on it so hard and be so hard on yourself
Good luck!
2006-12-31 19:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is very admirable that you have waited so long and if that's the reason you don't want to date...then hmmmm I don't know what to say because I was going to say that eventually someone will come along but you don't want to hear that so yeah...you know what though? Not everyone cares if the person they date is a virgin or not so just date...the only way to find out for sure is to try it.
2006-12-31 19:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♥MG789♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am celibate going on for about 11+ years*maybe longer but I can't even remember). And the experiences before that is few and far between. Nothing is to late for you. If someone loves you in the proper way then they they will appreciate and even honor the gift you have to give them on your wedding night. Anyone who loves you for you is going to appreciate all you have to offer.
I almost gave up on my celibacy earlier this year because of the rejection and tired of waiting reasons you gave also. I realize that rejection is painful and I have cried so many tears over it. I have received rejection so many times that I have for a long time given up even trying to anticipate a successful relationship.
You are very young and I am honest to tell you that I am 38 and still struggling. It is not too late for me and It is not too late for you. I have prayed for you and I will continue to pray for you all this week and even more. Take care and God Bless You and give you Peace even in this battle.
2006-12-31 19:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by hello T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer, although people with insecurities and hang ups of their own will like to try and convince you that there are. IMO it is better to be choosy, and be alone, then to be with someone just because you are afraid to be alone or independent, or to be with someone who is not good for you.
I doubt it will be a 'dealbreaker' for any man who is worth it... And why would you want to date the kind of person that it is a 'dealbreaker' for anyway???
2006-12-31 19:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I think it's great that you are waiting! My ex-boyfriend was waiting as well and it was one of the things that made me attracted to him. I think there's something very special about waiting for that one person. I'm sure there are others out there like me who would love to find someone else who is waiting for just the right person.
2006-12-31 19:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by shimmer_girl14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of who you are. 25 is very young, and you will have something to show for those years. You are in an enviable position - Be Happy!
2006-12-31 19:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have sex with everyone you date. You can still meet people and go out, thats HOW you find the right one.
2006-12-31 19:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Robot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be confidant and feel strong in what you believe in and yuour morals. if your truly fine with it thatn the person you date doesnt matter who it is will be fine with it too.
2006-12-31 19:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Aquarius-Monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in your 20's and still a virgin?... That's amazing... Are you attractive?... if so I can help you w/ that, no stings attached :-)
2006-12-31 19:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by goodtimefriend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋