Why would he do this if he loved me??(see add'l details)
2006-12-31 11:06:37 · 13 answers · asked by Hott Gymnast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would he do this to me??
I was with my b/f for two years. I broke-up with him in a voice mail. Two days later we got back together.
He was a virgin when we broke up and we promised to be eachother's first. We almost did it two weeks after getting back together and I found out he did it during those two days.
Why did he do this?? He says he is sorry and has a reason, but I don't believe it.
Did he have to do it with the first girl to try and cheer him up??
I broke up with him b/c I had just had my g-pa, aunt, cousin, and friend die. I was just not thinking right, and he goes and sleeps with a girl.(he says he was not drunk)
Should I accept this and apologize, cuz last night when this happened I just told him I think I should leave and I walked away.
I only found out cuz the girl had called him while I was there, and I answered.
They were friends before all this.
2006-12-31 11:06:49 · update #1
Should I forgive him and trust him again??
2006-12-31 11:08:05 · update #2
His good reason was that I broke his heart in a voice mail. How was he supposed to think clearly?? He was just watching tv when she came on to him.
Seem true??
2006-12-31 11:11:51 · update #3
Would most guys do this??
2006-12-31 11:12:40 · update #4
well, if he is really sorry and really wants to be forgiven then yeah, i think you should forgive him. but if hes all proud of it and bragging then, i dont think you should be so quick to forgive. im not sure on why he did it but my guess is he did it because he could have felt hurt and used by you so by sleeping with another girl he felt in some way that he was 'getting you back' because thats how guys think. they're always trying to 'get you back' if you hurt them because thats what my ex boyfriend said to me, that he was trying to hurt me the way that i hurt him. but if you still love him and if hes really, honestly sorry, hten i think you should forgive him and just put it behind you two. best of luck.
2006-12-31 11:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he got tired of waiting. I know its a harsh thing to say but maybe he was ready and he just got tired of waiting on you. And just didn't know how to tell you and saw the breakup as an opportunity. Or maybe he wasn't a virgin to begin with. He may have told you he slept with the other girl because of guilt. I wouldn't forgive him because if you love someone you don't up and sleep with someone else after just 2 days of breaking up no matter what the reason is. If you don't think you can trust him just let it be because trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. good luck
2006-12-31 19:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by tink19812003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of this depends on how old you are. Since you both wanted the first time to be with each other, I assume that you are both fairly young.
I would venture to say that your b/f had a weak moment and was with another girl and things just fell apart from there.
What you have to decide is do you still want to be with him. No one can answer that for you. You now know that he has had sex after promising to wait and have it with you. If you want to still be with him, you will have to get over the fact that you weren't his first. However, I would be willing to bet that there was no love between them when it happened. You can give your body to someone, but giving your love is something special.
2006-12-31 19:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you two weren't dating you cant really feel all that bad. I mean YOU broke up with him. Which told him you didn't want him. If you say you want to save it for him and you break up then he could be feeling as if you don't love him. If doesn't matter if he loved you because yall weren't dating at the time. He wasn't yours so he has the right to do whatever. What if you two never got back together... did you want him to stay a virgin for life??? That's every selfish...just to let you know. In real life no one is gonna wait on someone who doesn't want them.
Like my boyfriend told me: " I can love you so much but it wouldn't matter if you don't love me back" <---- he said that while we were on the topic of virginity as well.
2006-12-31 19:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by lil_court_843 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg
look sweetie, the past its past, you cant do anything about it, you were in all right to be in pain and not think straight cause of what you have been dealing with and he should have understood that, and oh come on, in 2 days he already .. smacked someone else???!!! thats really REALLY cruel, but my guess its she made everything she could to get him (and succeded) cause he likes him in a moment of opportunity wich he took cause he was upset with you.
I know youve been together for 2 years, but that in prospective its nothing, if you think you can forgive that and move on (really move on) cause the relationship you had its worth it than forgive him, knowing what happened; but if you think you deserve better, wich in my opinion you do, than move over and leave him..
he deffo has more appreciation for you than with this other girl, and he might be seriously regreting what he did, but think about this.. whats going to happen next time you both have a problem? is he going to respect you?? or is he going to jump in a strangers arms just because he is upset?? That its highly inmature and you need to be respected and get what you want.
2006-12-31 19:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by luisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, when a man is in love with his woman, he waits, when a boy thinks he is in love with his woman, he takes any opportunities there is to spread his love.
However, you technically cannot use this against him since you did end the relationship, however, I can seriously see why you are hurt because he didn't wait for you.
This is a choice you have to make yourself, if your relationship is good other than this, then maybe it is worth to forgive.
2006-12-31 19:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by !?! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be more to this story than you are telling us! There has to be. He did this as some kind of statement. It HAS to have something to do with you and he.
If you care to share the whole story, then you can get an honest answer. Otherwise you are fooling yourself.......him.....and all of us.
2006-12-31 19:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either it never happened and he's trying to get you jealous or get even for breaking up or ..... maybe he was never really into you enough to comfort you when you needed it in the first place!!!
2006-12-31 19:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you don't need a man who treats you like that! Kick his butt!
Girls Rulz!
2006-12-31 19:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by reza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should back off for alittle then go back to him and forgive him but set some standards
2006-12-31 19:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by MIZZAMERICAOF2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋