I'm not seeking any relationship or involvement whatsoever. It is my nature that I never want to deceive or tell lies to anyone. I've been hinting time and again to some friends that I'm extremely happy to be single and not get involved in any relationships but they do not seem to believe me. Sometimes, they think that I'm being too proud to refuse to be involved and that I think too highly of myself. The truth is I'm extremely honest in what I say for I'm a very simple person never wanting to hurt anyone in any way possible but have been misunderstood. My only solution is to go out in groups. I'll welcome any views and am very grateful to each and every one for your views. regards.
2006-12-31 11:06:04 · 15 answers · asked by "NotBeingPractical 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've explained yourself very well here, have you tried explaining things in those terms to your friends?
Some people just won't be able to understand that you aren't interested in a relationship, no matter how you explain.
Sorry I couldn't be any more help.
2006-12-31 11:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to how you are feeling so well.
Try joining different groups in your area - or even a night school class where you will meet people with similar interests and as you get to know then on a personal level it is very easy to say you have joined because you are fed up with people trying to matchmake when you just aren't interested.
New people often find it far easier to accept you want friends not dates, than people who have known you for a long time and think they know what you want better than you know yourslf
Good luck
2007-01-04 10:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by PMF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to not date one on one. That will always give the impression you might be interested in more than friendships. Also you might just tell them that you have made a choice to be celibate. You are happy with the single lifestyle. However if you are a person that still needs intimacy in your life, then don't lie to yourself. You are interested but you haven't found the right person. Maybe you should think of what you are looking for and then describe it to your friends so they know they don't fit.
2006-12-31 11:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find one person in a group that you are particularly attracted to as a friend and would enjoy spending some time together, just make it clear from the start that you seemed to get along well with the person but you just want to start a friendship and keep it at that. Ask them if they are OK with it and understand your feelings. Tell them you enjoy their company and would like to spend some time together talking and sharing common interests. I admire your honesty and your desire to be upfront. I think it is crueler to "string a person along."
2006-12-31 11:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by StarGalactica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be single-there IS something wrong with the fact that your "friends" seem to be unable to grasp the fact that you do not want to be involved with anyone...sometimes you just have to be vocal to get your point across-one of those times is now for you. "Honesty is the best policy" it is said...but your friends aren't listening, and to be able to listen...REALLY listen-(not just "hear"!)-is also a gift. Just carry on with the way you are-you are doing just fine, not your fault if people don't "listen".
2006-12-31 21:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you have to be straight forward when you first meet a person. The person gets hurt because they never knew that you don't want to be in a serious relationship. Let them know at first make it easy for them because you are also wasting their search time on finding a mate who wants a serious relationship.
2006-12-31 11:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be LOUD and HONEST with them. There is nothing wrong with a person wanting to be single. Sometimes we have to hurt peoples feelings in order to get them to understand. If they are true friends, then they will soon understand and things will be back to norm !
2006-12-31 13:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am simple too and really don't like to hurt people. Just get mad start throwing chairs or something. Shout I'm not interested. Just go crazy start crying then they will leave you alone but wither you want to or not you will hurt someone cause there getting rejected. Thats life sweety.
2006-12-31 11:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not to date anyone then... just go out with people of your gender or in groups like you said.
2006-12-31 11:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats how you feel then just keep telling them. nobody can make you go out on a date, so you have nothing to worry about. have fun in your groups and dont woory about what other people think.
2006-12-31 11:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋