how do i get my mother in law to talk to her daughter?, as they are just as stubborn as each other?

Question

hey mother in law and her daughter have not talked in 3 years and i am getting sick of being in the middle, i know they both love each other but neaither wants to make the 1st move to appolagise. they are both as stubbon as each other i think they don't even know what it was over that is how bad it is

Answer 1

Ask the mother-in-law if she could do you a favor and please talk to her daughter as a favor to you. Ask the daughter for the same favor, saying, that she should be the bigger person and start the conversation with her Mom first. Tell her that it would be such a good favor to you.

Answer 2

I have an idea. Why not send them each an invitation to a meal at your house with a contract inside of it that states they are willing to have a truce and let bygones be bygones. They will just put this in the past with no mention of it again and each try to look for the best in each other because life is too short not to be with each other. Ask them to bring the contract to the dinner. Don't make them R.S.V.P.
and tell them that. Who ever doesn't show up is going to miss out on family and a good time. Then you will have tried your best and if it doesn't work just let them figure it out.

Answer 3

I suggest you sit down with your wife and tell her how this makes you feel and that you would like to know what caused this arguement in the first place. After she tells you, if you still can't convince her to talk to her mother, see if you can talk to her mother yourself and get her side of it. Let them both know that you know they love either other, but also know they are just too pround and scared to make the first move. Let them both know that you know that this situation hurts both of them and it's hurting you as well to not only be in the middle, but to see what it is doing to them. They need to understand that her mother won't be around forever, if they keep going like this she will be gone one day and your wife is going to feel horrible. If someone won't make the first move, try to get them to agree to meet together somewhere and just start anew like this never happened. Just ask them to agree to disagree and both forgive each other for being so stubborn. Thier love for each other HAS to overcome this problem.

Good luck. I hope I've helped in any way.

Answer 4

Firmly tell each one that you don't want to be in the middle anymore. Then when one talks to you about the other, change the subject. You may even be fueling the feud just by listening.

Answer 5

Getting those two hard-heads together is not your job. However, removing yourself from the middle of their cold war is. The next time either of them wants to get you involved, talk about the other one to you, or anything else like that, cut it off immediately and say: "Sorry, not interested, that is for you to discuss with (other person's name)". Repeat as needed.

Answer 6

Stay out of it.Unless you want to be a pawn in there drama STAY OUT OF IT..Grown Folks don't have the sense of a chicken somtimes..And if they start talking back to each other what would one say to the other about you.

Answer 7

Tthey will on their own time mend their problem towards each other.. Just give them more time. When worst comes to worst be on your wives side to avoid getting burned too. .

Answer 8

Have you tried getting them to your house together and not giving them a chance to leave until they talk, maybe you be the mediator

Answer 9

Remove yourself from the middle and tell them they need to work it out themselves, you are not their referee.