I really liked this guy he was possibly my first love. Its been almost 2 months since it kinda ended he said he cared about me but was conserned with the age difference (4 years) but he also said that it didn't change anything he just needed to think. that how it ended off and now hes moved on to another girl. I just can't stop thinking about the things he said to be about how we wouldn't always be just friends and all the times he told me he missed me and wanted to see me more. And all the times we were together how amazing they were. What should I do?
2006-12-31 10:24:58 · 21 answers · asked by ml3gg0ur 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there before... and I can tell you that the best thing you need to do is STOP all communications whit him. If you keep him in your life the only person that is goin to end up hurt is you, he's moved on so obviously he wasn't into you at all. Now is your turn to move on. I know is hard, but is the best thing you need to do. In reality and I hate to admit it, first loves are hard to forget, and you will always remember him. But you have to think what is best for you, and you need to get over him,and he needs to give you at least that. I'm not saying you need to not be friends with him, I know deep inside you are waiting for him to come back, and the idea of loosing completely scares you. But you need time away from him. This is very important. Time will not heal your wounds, sorry to disappoint ya there, but it will help you move on to new and better things. What you need is to tell your self you deserve better, don't think if you will hurt his feelings by not talking to him. The truth is that is what he wants, he want you to leave him alone. and by hooking up with someone else he pretty much told ya. ... well I'm speaking with experience I can give you advice but is it up to you when to stop hurting. You all ready wasted to much time on him. Move on, the world is full of adventures..... Good luck.
2006-12-31 10:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by jayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly my first love? Well you should know if it is your first or not, assuming that it is your first love. All I can say is that every one goes through it. Give yourself some time to grow, and heal. It will make you stronger and wiser. It’s ok to cry. When you look back at it years from now I hope the memories will be sweet ones.If you find it hard not to think of him, ask your self Why?
Maybe Yoga or some other activity will help you keep your mind on other things, besides your broken heart. Now there seems to be a lot of pain in your life, but it shall pass. Remember no pain no gain. Enjoy your life it is to short to stay sad for to long. You’ll be ok. :)
2006-12-31 18:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for your problem but I once had a crush on an actress and then another, later. We get these feelings that may come from being with someone or just seeing them in situations such as a movie. It is part of life but not real love... Move on and know that it will happen again, but that too may not be love.. Love, if real, takes time and not weeks or months.. Real love comes by two commitments and not one.. Just remember that God loves you no matter what..I did not write any actress or anyone I had a crush on.. I moved on to real relationships..
2006-12-31 18:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, have you ever thought of times you were miserable or that you felt unappreciated??? If you do not, start thinking hard. Cupcakes, you can move on only by start dating more guys because the more you date around, the farther you memories will be gone from this loser. Pumpkin, he has move on and you are the pathetic one still crying for this loser. Honey, get sweet revenge when he sees you happy with the new man in your life, that is priceless. Find out for yourself pumpkin.
2006-12-31 18:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone new! Even if it's just someone to have a crush on. What you need is some other guy to think about instead of this guy. In 6 months you might have totally forgotten about him. Or wondered what you saw in him in the first place. But you need someone else, or something else, to think about to replace thinking about him. Even a new hobby might work. Also, keeping busy is good. Do whatever it takes to NOT think about him!
2006-12-31 18:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by amy_kearney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him one last time to get it all out, and then move on. If he's concerned about the age different, respect him for being a decent guy. Unless he's dating a someone the same age as you or younger!
2006-12-31 18:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is go over to your best friends house, and talk with her about it. Or you could watch t.v. to help you or read a funny book. Breaking up is hard. Just hang out with some of your friends, and have a blast without him. Okay? I hope you feel better.
2006-12-31 18:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by pup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do except to let time run. Focus on doing more work, join some clubs, keep yourself as busy as possible. If you are very busy, you won't have much time to think about it and it will be less painful.
2006-12-31 18:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.. as painful as it may be move on. he is telling you all this because he wants to move on. You can find someone out there it just takes time.
you will never forget your first love and the way he made you feel. in someways its a gift. you learn from it.
if it was meant to be it will happen. just show him that you are strong and can move on. you never know, it may want him to want you more.
2006-12-31 19:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by wotidev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Channel your passionate energy into something creative. I wrote my best music after being dumped - another dumping made me a decent runner. Try whatever suits you, poetry, art, sport...
2006-12-31 18:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by wizard bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋