Why can't some people accept that they are stay at home moms and working moms?

Question

Maybe we stay at home moms like to stay at home. We chose to. If a mom works then that is fine as well but why bash someone else's lifestyle? That is like sitting back and talking about someones sexual preference.

I think if you are jealous of other peoples lifestyles you should just bite your tounge and go on with your life.

Answer 1

I agree-do the best that you can and do not judge others. I am a stay-at-home mom. I enjoy this and feel honored to be able to stay with my children and not to have to depend on somebody else to watch my children (like a daycare) but some moms enjoy working outside of the home or cannot afford to not work.

Answer 2

I'm 15 now, and for most of my short life, I've grown up with a working mom. Only two years ago did she stop working as a CEO. I think my situation differs than others answering this question. My mom does not really have much taking care of to do, like others. I am the youngest of 3, and I'm 15. I can pretty much do my own thing, and I'm at school during the day.

We have two maids and a cook, so it's not like she has to clean, but yet, I still admire her. She worked for 26 years, so I think she deserves what she has. My dad still works, but he's home by 6 everyday.

I admire stay-at-home moms. They're job is a lot harder than people think. They do what daycare people do for free, plus they have to clean and cook. Working moms are respectable too. They may have different personalities than those that stay home. They may be the type that are more independent.

What about work-at-home moms?

Answer 3

Mothers that choose to stay at home is just as productive as a working mother. The mother that stays at home chooses to maintain the home; by doing work within the home (house cleaning). She also chooses to help raise the children by supporting them. This can be done by taking them on activities,providing help through the child's school as a room mother,helping with homework,listening to problems and solving them. She is also an asset to her partner by being home the bills can be maintain by being paid when her husband is working outside the home; dinner hopefully is waiting after along day, she can share what is going on with the children.

Mothers working outside the home is just as important also. Her job maybe harder if she have to come home and complete all the things described above that a stay at home mom has already done. Hopefully within the home it's a unity so both parents are working together; and everything runs smoothly.

So for a mom that worked outside of the home and raised two sons as a single parent....hats off to men and female that choose either life styles! What ever makes "Your" family work, then just..."DO IT".
remember someone will always criticize any and everything to just get a rise out of anyone for attention.

Answer 4

I agree with you. I have been both---and truth is--being a stay at home mom is every bit as difficult or more so than being an outside worker. UNLESS, I was able to find a job that paid very, very well, my working outside the home was useless, by the time I paid a babysitter, day care provider, or someone else to take my kids to extracurricular activities, extra meals out, gas to another job, and the stress of working all day, then going into mom mode when I returned home from work in the evenings. Stay at home moms sacrifice a lot of monetary things in their life, but I think they, just like everyone else, choose their priorities.

Answer 5

hmm just a thought here... stay at home moms... do work.. as a matter of fact they bust their butts off and housework is a NEVER-ENDING job... if you are a good house-wife that is! When I was a housewife, it was the hardest JOB EVER because the house NEVER stays clean, I would have to cook AND its really a 24/7 job. I would never criticize anyone who chooses to stay home... but I would NEVER be a stay at home mom, I prefer to work OUTSIDE of my home, hire a housekeeper/cook and make my own money to spend any way I want. I love my life, I have a great job, someone else does all my cooking and cleaning so all of my free time is spent on my children ~Princess~ ADDED NOTE: My children are not in daycare, they are in school while I'm at work, my job pays VERY well.. I do get child support so I dont have to worry about paying for daycare etc. I was a stay at home mom when my children were babies and I loved the time I spent with them but really the whole housekeeping thing is not my thing...!

Answer 6

I'm just happy that I was able to be a stay at home mom for as long as I was. These days with the crappy economy in Michigan I can't afford to stay at home so i had to get a part time job.
I just accept people that actually take care and pay attention to their kids regardless if they stay at home or work. There are too many parents out there that don't give a **** about their kids. Doesn't matter if they work or not!

Answer 7

Some people just can't accept that a woman would rather stay home and raise there children rather than going out and getting a job. I guess there are just a lot of feminist that look down on stay at home mom. Because they find woman raising kids and cooking to be archaic or something.

Answer 8

I don't know if I think the debate over stay at home/ working mothers is about judging others as much as it is ourselves we judge. We all want to do the right thing for our children, and we are taught from an early age there is only one right way to do most things. So if our way isn't right and the other way wrong, then we are wrong. There is also the fact if you stay at home you think about how much more you could provide for your kids if you worked. If you work you think about all the time you could spend with them if you stayed at home. There is no right or wrong way it is the way that works best for you. Make your decision be proud of it and don't let others opinon bother you. I stay at home with my kids, cause my mom had to work( my dad died when I was 15 months old). She didn't have a choice, and I would have liked to have her at home. I also had a large family(4 kids), because I was an only child, and wanted a sibling. I also have friends who work cause they grew up very poor, and want to provide or spoil their children. I also have friends with just one child cause they had large families and felt overlooked. It is all up to you there is no right or wrong and we should not judge others or ourselves. Be happy with your decisions and love your families, no matter weather you stay at home or work. We women need to stop judging each other and support each other.

Answer 9

the only reason people look down on us stay at home mom's, is because they are jealous. who wouldnt want to stay at home with thier children? i am only 22, and a stay at home mom, and let me tell you, i get some mean looks. but, i dont care. i want the best life possible for my daughter, and i know only i can give it to her. no babysitter or daycare can care for and love my daughter like i can. and hey, being a mom and taking care of a home is a full time job all on its own! and, i can tell you i'm much happier, being a stay at home mom than i was when i was working 40+ hours a week and trying to spend time with my daughter. my husband would rather that i stay at home. with the world these days, you cant trust just anybody to take care of your children anymore. yeah, if i worked, we would have alot more money, but our finances are fine, and i would rather have my daughter than all the money in the world. people can be mean, but most people fail to think outside the box. be proud of who you are, working mom or not, in the end all that matters is your children.

Answer 10

I am a working mom, and I would not have it any other way. I like to get a way from my kids for a while. I am sure that they like to get away from me for a while as well. But as far as being a stay at home mom - that works for some people. Not everything works for the same person. You have to do what makes you and your family happy.