Its not like he drinks every day, but every weekend he will stay up until like 5, 6 in the morning drinking with his friends. I tell him its not good for him but he says to quit trying to act llke his mom. He doesnt understand that i just care about him. Hes been drinking since he was way young and now hes 20, and he says its something that is never gonna change. I have told him to at least cut back and he promised he would but he hasnt. He always tells me that i knew he was like that before we got together and that he is not forcing me to be with him that i can leave him cuz his drinking is never gonna stop.
2006-12-31 10:23:31 · 14 answers · asked by Lizeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i consider myself to be a reasonable person and i wont leave him just cuz of that. i just need help on how to explain to him how i feel without him getting mad. we have talked about it before and we always end up fighting
2006-12-31 10:26:04 · update #1
You are not unreasonable at all. You are concerned with his health and that shows that you truly care about him. Alcoholism is a very serious and debilitating disorder (I grew up with an alcoholic in the family). Unfortunately, if you continue putting up with this, it will eventually bring you down. You will probably be unable to have a stable, positive relationship. You may have to end the relationship to ensure that you will accomplish any type of goal you have set for yourself whether that be a family, a home and/or a college degree. I am sorry that you are dealing with this, but please take in consideration that I have heard "I promise I'll quit" many, many times. You seem like a very intelligent, level headed person. Just follow your gut instinct, they never lie but your heart may. Good luck honey.
2006-12-31 10:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always end up arguing because he does not think he has a problem.Until HE DOES there is nothing you can do for him. The person with the problem has to admit it to themselves that there is a problem before a solution can be found.YOU have the tough decision of whether to stay or move on.I wish you the best in whatever you do.HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR ANYWAY & LOTS OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-31 16:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you, I would leave! If a guy can't make a promise and keep it then you can find someone better. A person that loves and cares for you will always know if something is hurting you[[ that they're doing]] and usually they'll stop...if they dont do you think their really in it for your love?! I hope everything works out!!
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2006-12-31 10:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by *Robert & Kalika's Momma* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to use to drink alot, my girlfriend but it too me like this either you can cut the drinking or cut her out of her life. As a Soldier in the Army I made the best choice in my life by stoping and I rarely drink now
2006-12-31 10:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Army soldier. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what he is doing is called binge drinking, which is just as harmfull to himself and you as drinking everyday. Sounds like you have tried to talk to him and he's not responding - which seems very selfish. Obviously he doesn't care about your opinion b/c he dismisses your concerns. It sounds like it will only get worse w/o some sort of intervention. (out patient rehab)
-good luck
2006-12-31 10:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're his "punching bag" in case you'll...not that I recommend he hits you yet that you're who he's taking his frustration out on b/c you're who's round. My ex husband change right into a similar way, he'd drink and drink and drink and then grow to be a monster. I wager you even as he sobers up he appologises to you too. right here's the component, he's in denial. You telling him he has a topic and that he needs help will in no way come out good, all he will right here's ....there is something incorrect with you. i imagine contacting somebody else who cares about him can be a strong idea. you do not favor to bypass via this on my own. perhaps his mom stepping up and telling him....look, me and (you) are irritating about you and we desire you to get extra effective and we like you. I left my husband b/c i might want to not take care of the abuse anymore and then it began transferring over to our youngsters and that change into the line and he crossed it. Now, he tells me he's sorry and that he must have made it extra effective....nicely yea you should have yet i tried to agonize about you and help you yet you probably did not desire my help so I had to agonize about me and my youngsters. final analysis....he's now unlikely to regulate till he needs to, no you may make him. merely be careful. attempt to dodge him even as he's ingesting b/c yelling will grow to be screaming and screaming will grow to be throwing issues which may grow to be something worse.
2016-12-01 09:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't love a drunk, and you can't make a drunk dry out with threats, promises or wishful thinking. Trust me, I know - and you can ask Alcoholics Anonymous if you don't believe me. Dump him, weep over it for a few days, and then find a boy who is worthy of your love.
2006-12-31 10:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and leave him. He is showing signs of alcoholism and doesn't want to do anything about it. You deserve a boyfriend who won't kill himself with drink.
2006-12-31 10:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and get him to see a doctor so the doctor can tell him all the horrid he's doing to his body like destorying his liver
2006-12-31 10:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him until he gets himself sorted out...
2006-12-31 10:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋