(im 15) i have over protective parents. they never let me do anything, and when i say anything, i mean anything. they dress me, and im stuck at home 24/7/365. i need to tell them to back off and give me some space. how to do it? help please.
2006-12-31 10:20:11 · 16 answers · asked by *august 12th* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first i am feeling sorry abt u for having such parents. i am nnot saying tht they dont love u. but tht their love is only just wild. do one thing , u directly ask them to give a bit freedom as ur matured. n just try to love them mjore, more and more. show ur full love on them, they will start loving u as thier kid. slowly u ask them to give this and that. bcos they r loving u greatly they will definetely give u.
OR DO ONE THING..!! JUST SEARCH A GOOD LOOKING GUY AND JUST GO OFF WITH HIM...!!
2006-12-31 20:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you said, you are stuck at home 24/7 and 365, don't you go to school? If they dress you up even now, it is about time that you told them that you are old enough to dress yourself and you like to do certain things yourself. You need to show them that your trustworthy, dependable and responsible. Once you accomplish this, they will give you room to breath. You need to be open with them and tell them where you are going and with whom and what time you will be back. Make sure you always tell them the truth. If they find out that you lied to them, they will never trust you again.
2006-12-31 22:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by "Vallamkali" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have to understand is,your 15 years old growing up in a world thats massivley different from when they were 15.
Im only 36 and everythings totally different from when i was 15.
Your parents watch the news,read newspapers and listen to the radio and know what goes on in the world around them.
Its so easy to say they are over protective but see things from their point of view,
they have had you in their lives for 15 years and cared for you and watched you grow,you are the most important person in their lives and they will do anything for you.
Being 15 is a difficult age,your in between a teen and an adult,you want to be treated as an adult yet your parents still see you as their baby.
Ask your parents to sit and talk to you about this,if you want to be treated like an adult you must act like one and by letting them know (in a sensible manner) how you feel,you may get a pleasant suprise that they understand you and you them and hopefully you can come to an arrangment
2007-01-02 08:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not intentionally trying to annoy you-they just wanna protect you. But I can see how that'd get pretty annoying. You should talk to them and tell them that you are 15 and would like them to give you a little bit more personal space and privacy. When you wanna go somewhere with friends, make sure they have met the friend(s)' parents and you have your cell phone with you. If you don't have a cell phone, hang out at friend's house so if they need to they can call there.
Good luck!
2006-12-31 18:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont react n when they r in good mood u hve only to assure her that u will not go wrong/ At this age mistakes[serious] take place/ maturity comes with the age/ over protectiveness will help u only in the long run/ try to read some books/ look to the history of earliar generation/ By ur reacting they will become more strict/ just tell them assure them that u are one family n nothing wii go wrong/ all for one n one for all.
2007-01-02 10:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just concerned for your welfare. They love you and don't want anything to happen to you. You are only 15 and still young with a lot to learn. If you want to be taken more seriously and respected for your actions and decisions by your parents then you must prove it to them just like most of us have. Do this...When you want to go somewhere with someone or a group of your friends, go up to your mother or father and tell them what you want to do, who you will be with, about how long you will be gone and who will be there where you are going. If you are going to be gone for any number of hours then tell them you will call them periodically to let them know you are alright. Another thing. You may not like it but don't stay out past 11PM. Remember, you are 15 and you are not ready to stay out longer or deal with the reality of the darkness near midnight. It is when most things bad happen to young people. Trust me.
2006-12-31 18:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they have done a great job raising you, and that you understand them having such a tight leash on you because the world is so screwed up. Then tell them to trust your judgement in making the right decision on things, then if you mess up royally, then you can tell them that you have to learn things on your own. Then ask them if you all can come to a compromise. For instance go to the mall w/mom, you pick out the outfit that you like, she might even like it herself. While you are at the mall, have lunch there and talk to her. Do the same w/dad, like help him w/the yard or something, I don't know. (lol) And talk to him about what's on your mind. Then at dinner time, talk to them about school or friends you have, you don't have to mention the friends names, but if they have a situation, tell your parents about it, give your opinion on it, and ask them what they think.
2006-12-31 18:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a very common teenage problem. I think it happens with most of the teens - they just feel their parents are too protective . Actually speaking the parents at this stage are not sure if you can yourself do things properly so convince them that you can!!
2007-01-01 01:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by ashu2sinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they know that you have asked such a question. yes may be they are over protective but all of it is for you. they love u. have you ever thought how your parents would feel if they come to know this?it is better if you ask and discuss this serious problem with parents. don't worry it has become common problem in all homes.it will get solved.
2007-01-01 00:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by liferose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16 year old and she says the same thing...hehehe...but I do let her do things...
Have you tried to show more responsibilities? Keeping your room clean, taking out the trash, washing dishes..and all done with out too much complaining...compromise...My daughter, has to make sure her things are done and that she dose not get into trouble before going out...and, she has a 9pm curfew...Also I have to know where she is and who she is with and to call to check in every so often...or she does not go out for a while...She does not have a cell phone, but her friends do, so she call me from thier phones.
When you talk to your parents, do it with maturity. I am sure they will let you go out, but, it is a compromise between you and your parents.
I hope that everything works out for you in the new year!
2006-12-31 18:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋