Where Can I Meet Girls?

Question

I am 19 year old guy, average looks. I am on a Computing course at university. I am quite shy and I have never had a girlfriend. When I was at school I used to be quite overweight. I am not overweight anymore and am very in shape.

I have only ever asked one girl out on a date, but the answer was no because she has a boyfriend (which is very annoying cause I know she likes me too). Anyway, I really don't know where I can meet girls.

I REALLY don't like going out to clubs, I hate how loud the music is, I hate how crowded it is, any usually I hate the actual music that they play.

I work in a very small shop, at which the girl I mentioned above also works. There aren't any other girls that are even my age that work there.

There is now only 1 girl on my entire course at uni (out of 60), the rest dropped out last year.

Where can I meet girls, is online dating the only way? I kinda feel depressed at the thought of resorting to that. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Don't get depressed or feel discouraged! Its nothing to be ashamed of at all really :) and its good that you actually did ask instead of stay cooped up in a corner and moan about it XD

Online dating can be risky as you never know who you're talking to (it could be a 50-year old guy from a remote country) and even if she offers pictures, it may not be of her.

Try getting involved in activities such as sports at your local fitness club (they would probably have stuff like group kickboxing classes etc) and you'd get to know more people that way. Remember that don't just go for a girl, well, BECAUSE she is a girl and try not to have too many "proximity" girls, people you go out with just because they're available. As you may not have had much experience in the dating field, you may usually go for these girls and you'll usually get let down and disappointed. Know what you want in a girl and go for it!

Answer 2

I had the same problem at your age too. I was just too darn shy. First you need to develop some self confidence. Women with boyfriends will be attracted to you if you have it. Lonely women without boyfriends will not be attracted to you if you don't. IMO, the whole 'I have a boyfriend' excuse is to drive you off. If you hear that line, regroup and try again with someone else. But don't keep pestering the same 2 or 3 ladies either.

This stuff is hard for guys like like us, here is how to do it...but you will not like it at first but you'll have to do something like this to get past your fears and over your shyness.

The basic thing is to achieve your fears, your fear is to be rejected and disdained. So we need to get some of this for you. Go to a mall in a neighboring city, and carry a box of something you got for Christmas. Inside the box put some funny junk in it, whatever you can come up with. Maybe a small stuff animal, old socks (not smelly though), a toothbrush...just whatever you can think of that might get a laugh. At the mall ask women you see if they know where you can get a refund for the item your ex-girlfriend got you. When they stop and talk with you have a conversation saying things like this wasn't what I wanted and so on. At some point you'll casually open the box, look at the stuff and act surprised that your alleged ex-girlfriend fooled you with the box. Show the junk to the ladies you're talking too, they'll probably get a good laugh...so what. You can say well good riddance to her.

You need to keep making this approach and if some of them aren't perturbed that you're bothering them you're not doing it enough. Hopefully mall security will run you out of there at some point, if this happens you win! Pat yourself on the back and go on home. Eventually you'll be able to put the stupid box aside and just approach women and talk to them.

I hope this helps...it's not easy and it's kinda corny, but you don't want to live the rest of your life afraid of rejection.

Answer 3

Well, maybe should should try places that you think women would like to go to. For instance, the mall. Go into a store like, New York & Company, you'll know she has great taste in clothes and she dresses presentable and is probably smart. You could try the library. Or the grocery store. It might be risky, but the gym is a good place too. But that's such a meat market. Just try those other places I mentioned.

Answer 4

first of all it really helps to get over your shyness a girl likes a some what outgoing guy it just attracts them for some reason and as for meeting them you can meet a girl anywhere just be confident join a club or gym you can meet tons there. Good luck. and stop worrying so much about it , it will happen you just need to get out of the house and start looking, like I said join a gym a chick can't resist a guy with muscles well I know I can't lol.

Answer 5

Hey don't be blue man! Is there like some kind of hang out place at your school? Like a Student Union Building of some type? How about other cool places there that don't involve crummy music or is very crowded? I don't like clubs either nor do I like crowds so I feel ya. Is there any kinda clubs or organizations at your school that your interested in? Maybe they might have some cool chicks in them who knows. Good Luck man! Hope that helped...

Answer 6

hard to say since you didn't say where you live, usually parks, churches, stores that you frequent, and restaurants are good places...but if you live somewhere like northern Alberta, Western Australia, or North Dakota; then you're going to have a hard time no matter what.

Answer 7

wow, essay bro! anywhere! Parties, recreational sports, evening classes... but best thru other female contacts, that way u kno they aint psycho..
b confident, not confidential (my own motto!)
gd luck with ur cause!

Answer 8

You can meet girls ALL OVER THE PLACE.. Even here... ;)

Answer 9

get a fake ID and go to the bars

Answer 10

anywhere but here