How can I losen up?

Question

I'm a 16 year old girl. People talk to me all the time in school but never invite me anywhere out of school. I think it's because I'm a little stiff and shy, but I don't know how to losen up. I am pretty self conscious but when i'm around ppl for a long time i get crazy. im cool. What do you think I can do

Answer 1

Some people are naturally a little introverted. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't be afraid to use your sense of humor and try to establish contact with your peers. Go to mixers like dances and ski trips, etc, even if you have to go alone. Whatever you do, steer clear of drugs and alcohol, as that behavior will only tend to latch you onto others that have those bad behaviors.

Answer 2

You sound alot like mysself. I suffer from a little social anxiety from time to time. The symptoms you listed like being stiff and shy, and getting crazy when you're around ppl for a long time are defenitely signs of social anxiety. The best that I can tell you is to practice getting to know some of the ppl at your school. Show some interest towards them by asking them questions about their interest: favorite music, band, TV shows, cars, trucks, books they love to read, favorite hobbies outside of school, favorite sports, and etc... The point is for you to ask them questions about themselves and to listen at what their saying, so you can ask more questions for them to elaborite further on the subject. Also, you can invite some of the ppl to hang out with you. People love talking about themselves, and they will start inviting you to their functions because you took the time to show interest in them. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

being 16 is kind of a pivitol point in ones life. when they dont invite you somewhere try this... have a party...but! do not tell anyone where it is at. just tell them it is for a few select "friends" you of course are not having a party but everyone that hears about it will be dieing to know about it the more they hear about it the more they talk. then like 3 weeks later really have a party and invite everyone you know. presto chango your now 1 hot topic everywhere you go. www.myspace.com/jimmycody

Answer 4

Why don't you invite someone to go somewhere? It'll be a start. You'll get to know them quicker and thus loosen up when you are one on one or atleast in a small group. You're doing better than I did. I was so quiet no one even talked to me in school. I usually just had one friend at a time.

Answer 5

use your imagination to build a comfort level of what you'd like to do. invision yourself doing things that make you crazy or shy, like a movie in your head, filling in all the details like where you are and what you're doing. once you're not anxious by the thoughts of doing things that make you crazy,, take baby steps towards your goal.. ask if they want to see a movie, shop or have lunch. sometimes people are just as shy, and think you may say no, they won't ask. you'll likely need to be assertive and ask to go. good luck and happy new year!

Answer 6

You just stay the way you are...when you start changing your personality to appease others, then when the right person comes along, they might not be attracted to the 'new you'...they might have wanted that shy little girl all along, and prefer shy girls...you just be shy and let the right guy or girls recognize that, and admire that in you...God Bless and Happy New year

Answer 7

I don't know how to losen up but if you want to LOOSEN up then just relax. If you get crazy around people I don't really know what to tell you.

Answer 8

Take breaks. Go outside find a quite spot and chill for a few minutes then jump back into it.

Answer 9

Practice smiling a lot more, and practice being a good listener by showing interest in the person and what they are saying. And always smile, smile, smile.

Answer 10

why don't you ask your friends to go out with you and act yourself and you'll find that when you are not always thinking about be stiff and shy, things run more smoothly