My boyfriend(14) and me(15) are totally in love, and I know you don't believe me but it's definetly true. Anyway, he went to a camp this summer and I found out from someone that a girl there liked him and he liked her. He keeps denying it and we argue about it all the time. I love him more than anything and I can't see him with anybody else. My friend tells me me bicker like an old married couple but we always make-up. Should I quit or is arguing okay once in a while?
2006-12-31 10:06:35 · 24 answers · asked by tadpole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all couples argue. just make sure you have reason to be arguing with each other. if he says he doesn't like anyone else then you should trust him.
2006-12-31 10:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is natural, but you have to learn to trust. True love is about wanting what is best for someone and what makes them happy weather it is with you or without you. You too are very young and you have a lot to learn about each other and yourselves for that matter. I know at this age you think it's the most important thing in the world, but try to lighten up and just be a teenager. Have fun. It's true that this is the best time of your life and you don't want to waste it worrying about things that are beyond your control. There will be many more where this one comes from. Just have fun.
2006-12-31 18:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you keep going over the same territory when you fight? if he did have feelings for this other girl, then you nagging him is not going to prevent those feelings, and if anything will make him see her in an even more flattering light. and feelings for other people will happen occasionally - for you, and for him. the point though, is that you don't act on them.
fighting can be ok, but honestly, it doesn't sound like the two of you make one another happy. and it also sounds like you need him more than he needs you - never a great thing.
the best relationships are those where your relationship makes you both happy and brings out the best in each other. where there is trust and respect. where it is possible to acknowledge that there will be temptation, but that because of your happiness and trust, it is not a threat.
it's not easy, but that doesn't mean it isn't a better alternative than mistrust and fighting.
2006-12-31 18:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguing is part of any normal healthy relationship. It's when there is no arguing or disagreements that you should wonder.
You are still very young! Play the field, have fun and be a kid. Kids grow up too quickly now a days. My 16 yr old son was in a 2 yr relationship with one gal, she really stressed him out, he would become ill feeling, nervous and have stomach problems. Only after he broke it off with her, did his health become better.
Life is too short to worry about a relationship at your age.
2006-12-31 18:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by indygurl3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some trust issues developing here but try not arguing about it so much. The truth will come out eventually if something was really going on besides just rumors. Unfortunately you won't know for sure unless you were there so if you trust him work it out. It sounds like you are in love and if he really is in love with you then he won't do anything stupid.
2006-12-31 18:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by kws504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it’s normal to disagree/argue. What’s not normal is not disagreeing or arguing, however constant disagreeing and arguing isn’t normal either. You should find something else to argue about…arguing about some girl that he liked isn’t too bright…it’s now the past…find something else to argue about…eventually he’ll get tired of the same argument and end up breaking up with you.
2006-12-31 18:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is totally normal...me and my boyfriend do it all the time ...but we always joke about it later ! that is how you know that you love someone. if you all didnt argue how boring would everything be. it also makes for good make up sex but you all are a little young for that....
2006-12-31 18:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by tarahabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is healthy to argue just so long as it is not malicious. But dont worry about that other girl. If it is true love then love conquers all. She does not matter as much as you. Dont you ever get a crush on a guy, even though you would never cheat on your lover?
2006-12-31 18:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by doomonyou! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing about stuff once in a while is okay. But stop bring up that girl and fighting about her. She isn't even around and you are letting her ruin your relationship.
Worry about today and tomorrow not yesterday.
2006-12-31 18:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's bad that you guys are still arguing over this 6 months later. I understand you are still annoyed by it, but as long as he denies it, what can you do? Either move on, or leave.
2006-12-31 18:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋