I absolutely positively hate my step dad for all that he is and now I am resenting my mom for marrying him and sticking up for him and the only reason she and my father are divorced is because she cheated on him and tells me everyday that she regrets it and wishes she could turn back time. She also finds most of the time that she can't stand him either!! I am just so disgusted w. him and his verbally degrading behavior and personality. How can I keep calm around him. If you are going to tell me to grow up, maybe you are right, but don't be mean.
2006-12-31 09:40:58 · 14 answers · asked by Lauren. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ask ur mom if she really loves the guy. if she dont she should leave him. if u cant act calm around him its ok. i have a step dad of my own. just act like hes not there. but if he yells at u yell but. if he hits u tell someone!
2006-12-31 09:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by roxy j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately sounds like you and your mom need to sit down and talk about this and sounds like she needs to get out of that relationship.I know how she feels about regreting what she has done.I know I've got drunk and cheated on my man.But,you know what.We split up for about a month.And realized hey,We're soul mates.So,now I don't drink.And we've been together over 8yrs.He forgave me and it did take a little while to get the trust back for him.But,he did I believe that if your really meant to be together that no matter what,you should be a forgiving person and give chances.Maybe someday your dad will forgive your mom.We're human and we make mistakes.That's life.My ex-husband was very verbally and mentally abusive.So,I know how that is.I finally made him leave.Just hang in there and try to do your best.It would be hard to keep calm around him.As,my son sure didn't and now I'm glad he didn't.But,that wasn't his biological father either.But,my son saw how i was treated.You might E-Mail him sometime if you want to talk about it.His E-Mail address is- rednine320@yahoo.com His name is-Brandon and he's 20 Hope I've been a little help.
2006-12-31 09:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by jac9blond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom with a 14 year old daughter and a new husband I would say the first step is to sit down with your mom and have a heart to heart with her. Explain to her that you love her and want her to be happy. If your mother is really happy with the guy then avoid him as much as you can and if you can't then ignore him. My daughter wears headphones around her step-mother all the time says she would rather listen to music than her. It isn't a matter of growing up. It hurts when all of these changes take place but if you fight and argue or disrespect him then you only make it harder. If asked to do something do it then leave, but always keep the lines of communication open with your mom. If your mom isn't happy with the guy it will only be a matter of time before it isn't an issue anyway.
2006-12-31 09:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by mandj_stahl2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your teenager, having a friend over your house while you were out is so unacceptable. You didn't mention if your teen is a guy or a girl. Being in the military for 20 years is good because he was exposed to different scenarios of disciplining. He is not too hard nor unforgiving. He is just trying to avoid problems. I think he has reasons. Why don't you sit down together with your teen, discuss things and let him voice out what he has in mind. I'm sure he a a very good reason. Communication will bring back peace. Good luck!
2016-03-29 02:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, be respectful of both parents. If your step-father is making life miserable for your mom as well, don't add to her misery by berating and hating her choice. It only adds to her discontent and regret. You do not have to interact with him, just be respectful and acknowledge his presence. Eventually, you mother will also divorce him, or you will become independent and move on with your own life. Be a good kid for your mom's sake.
2006-12-31 10:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Saml J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. Does your mother love him?
Just try to be nice and maintain a sweet spirit. If he is being verbally abusive, then you can report him. It may not be physical, but it is still considered being abused. Talk to a school counselor or a teacher, or even a preacher. They can help you make a decision on what is best for you.
2006-12-31 09:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip some exlax in his foods, and have a little fun putting super glue on the toilet seat about 5 mins after he eats it. Guaranteed to make you feel better. and have a good laugh, lol, torture his sorry @$$, until he is begging to leave. Good luck.
2006-12-31 09:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change someone. I think you should move in with your dad. If your step dad's personality it this bad then you should leave.
2006-12-31 09:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Duckie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS A CHILD JUST EXERCISE PATIENCE.AND WAIT FOR YOU MUM'S DECISION.BECAUSE SHE COULD BE SAYING SHE HATES HIM 2 AND LATER ON CHANGE HER MIND ABOUT HIM, SO DON'T ACT HASTY.PS.U CUD ALWAYS MOVE IN WITH YOUR OWN FATHER.
2006-12-31 09:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by MAIME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom will get a divorce soon.
2006-12-31 09:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋