I need Help.....?

Question

Ok, this is my problem. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7months. (7 mnths in 9 days) Thats great and everything but we can't really find anything to talk about on the phone. And because of that, it seems as if that special "loviey doviey, butterflies in your stomach" feeling has gone away. Can I have some suggestions to improve my relationship?

Answer 1

From my experience, that feeling ALWAYS goes away eventually. That is perfectly normal. I used to expect to get a lot of my needs met from my husband or boyfriend. I have realized over the years that men are just different. They don't have the need to talk everything out the way women do. They may be better at it in the beginning, but they usually do run out of too much to say after a while. I wish it wasn't that way, and some men are different, but not too many. For your own sanity, I would make sure you keep your relationships going with other women and with your family if possible.

This is also why a lot of people don't make it in long-term relationships very well - it's because that initial feeling is so good and they want to keep feeling that over and over again. I AM NOT SAYING THAT HE IS GOING TO LEAVE! I am just saying that maybe you should talk about what is the most important thing to both of you. Do you both value companionship, friendship, security, and monogamy more than thrills, excitement, and temporary pleasure? A lot of people try to have both and it usually blows up in their face.

I wish you well.....

Answer 2

I've felt the exact same way in my past relationships, we talked so much then ran out of things to talk about. What i learned is that it cant exactly be fixed, and that sometimes talking isnt always needed. Maybe you two talk too much and just need a break, once things start to happen you'll both have somethin to talk about again. I know you dont want to lose him. Just talk less often if you have to in order to create conversation with him about what has happened since yalls last conversation. I hate to say it but the relationships i had when this happened we ended up not lasting. I am in a relationship now and i talk to her for hrs on end every day and we never run out of things to talk about because we understand each other and really love each other. If you feel that special feeling goin away then, maybe it is.

Answer 3

Try a new hobby together! Maybe learn something new...like dance. Plan a trip. You can always ask each other questions.
Also...could be that the relationship as reached the end of the road. Are you two still in love with each other?? If you are then try the above. You should also sit down with him and talk to him...say what you said above and see what he says. Then go from there. Good Luck!

Answer 4

why dont you 2 try going out with other couples and doing things togather that both of you like and i know people think its a rule that you have to talk on the phone everyday but you dont. and some times people need the space to think to be with thier friends to spend time with thier families and stuff. and then you will have things to talk about when you do talk on the phone.