.......that he doesn't like girls? i know that this sounds weird.he's NOT gay. here's his story: (God, I sure hope he doesn't read this)
Well, there's this guy who is pretty good lookin and he's the stereotype guy: he's on the football team, fit, pretty tall, Really strong, and really sweet. he had a girlfriend for, like, 4 years. and then they just suddenly broke off. he hasn't had a girlfriend since, and he doesn't want to. Something happened between them that hurt him really bad--bad enough to make him not like girls anymore. and as i said before-no he is not gay.
Well, he is best friends with my bf. (This was before i was going out with my bf) He told him that he liked me, but didn't want to go out with me and just wanted to be my friend. but how can a guy Seriously like a girl without wanting to go out with her? How can i show him that not all girls will hurt him?
I want serious answers, not just jokes like "he has problems" or "he must be gay" or stuf like that.
2006-12-31 08:49:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the Way--Him and his ex broke up like 5 years ago!!!!
2006-12-31 09:02:27 · update #1
Ok i know i already have a bf, but he's a really close friend of mine, and i can tell that he's hurt--I just want to help him.
2006-12-31 09:05:10 · update #2
Simple. He wants to get in your pants but doesnt want the commitment.
2006-12-31 08:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough one to answer. He must have been hurt pretty bad to call it off with dating again. I was hurt big time in my last relationship. It was abusive verbally, mentally and emotinally. It was also going down the road for the physical abuse too. I thought I could never trust a guy again after that. I realized though that it is a part of life is getting hurt. To find that special someone a person goes through it and must keep going on. I forced myself knowing I will never be with someone inless I take a chance. I am glad I did cause now I am in a wonderful relationship. He needs to just get out there and start dating again and realize that everyone isnt like his ex.
I wish him luck.
2006-12-31 08:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe this young man has some smarts---I have said again and again to don't wast time on having a steady girl or guy till after you finish college or trade school --get a career find the location and home of your choice--get the car you always wanted--get settled in life be comfortable THEN find someone to share in the life that you have made--someone that holds the same interest--Its called getting your ducks in a row--plain and simple :-) Good for him!!!! You can have tons of friends without complicating your life with being tied down ...
2006-12-31 08:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that he was going with a girl for something like 4 years. That is a pretty long time in a relationship. Some people, when they breakup, need time to get over the relationship. He may just want time out, but still wants to be friends with other girls, like yourself. Just give him time.
2006-12-31 08:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is still hurting and trying to get over his past relationship. Give him time. I for one commend him on not jumping into another relationship. Four years is a long time to be with someone...even if you are in your teens. He still has a lot of healing and growing to do. Be there as a friend and help him do that. Best things come to those who wait!
2006-12-31 08:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the relationship with the girl was a hard break up and he's not ready to be in another relationship. He might just think of you as a "little sister". It doesnt mean he's gay. My xhusband said the same thing after our divorce-that he'd never have a gf again or marry again.
2006-12-31 08:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a friend of your bf you should be the last one to teach him anything. He was hurt once and I don't think he needs someone like you who would be willing to cheat. Leave him alone. He is probably wise to stay away from dating for awhile.
2006-12-31 08:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just say "whatever happend with u and that girl must have been pretty hurtful, but that dosnt mean that all other girls are like that, i know it will take time to get over it, but seriously, you will eventually." something like that, just tell him, i dont know if you can prove it to him unless u date him or something, but i thought u had a bf,,,, well good luck to both of u
2006-12-31 08:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why r u worried about it if u have a bf??
and second, he needs to clear things up with himeslf before he can move on to someone else. he understands dating is a game that hurts quite often, and he is probably scared of getting close. he'll find a girl who will show him she trully cares, and he'll be scared of getting close, but he'll see eventually that its ok to risk things sometimes, or else he'll never find someone. he is just probably taking a break from girls for a while....can u blame him?
2006-12-31 08:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just time babe... Some guys are more cautious and need the healing time. Then again, if he finds himself in the right situations (i.e. cute girls flirting a lot) he may just come around a little quicker.
2006-12-31 08:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it truly seems like he doesn't want to get hurt again. don't push anything. he'll go after you when he feels he can really trust that you won't hurt him. become friends with him like he said. that way he can trust you and you can work your way into a relationship.
2006-12-31 08:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋