My boyfriend broke up with me because he was young and had second thoughts about the relationship. He realized that he wanted me back and I took him back. Since then, we had been having problems, we keep taking a break from each other. I guess the fact that, he broke up with me because he was unsure of his feelings for me, eventhough we had been together for two years made me realize that maybe all those times that he said "I love you" to me, maybe he never really felt them. I thought everything was great between us before he broke up with me, but I guess he was just pretending! I don't know..please guys help! This second time around, things are not the same as they were before. I really did thought we were gonna get married...! Now, for the last two months, we had been taking a break every two weeks. It is stressing me out...
2006-12-31 08:42:25 · 6 answers · asked by College GurL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
neither of you sound like you're not ready to make any life long committment. why the hurry? date and stop talking about marriage, no rush!! the talk of life long committment is screwing with your heads and making you question everything in the relationship,, when you're ready it will feel right, and it won't take so much effort. again, no rush!
also, learn to trust.. if you keep living in the past and not cutting some slack for a period of time someone had struggles, you're going to continue torturing yourself and the loved one. think back in your past,, did you hv doubts then get over them and go on like you never did with the same passion? -- can be anything not just matters of the heart.
it happens, it's not always about you! people hv inner fears, struggles, and doubts about themselves,, the future,, question themselves if they can they do it, be good at, be worthy, be successful, etc. its part of growing up AND happens to everyone and at every age. people get overwhelmed but it doesn't mean they don't love you,, remember to think of the other person, give them a break and don't be so insecure ):
if its not meant to be, then be happy you had the relationship, learned some things about yourself and appreciate the good memories. better to move on from the wrong person so you're available and don't miss the right person (:
good luck and happy new year!!!!!!
2006-12-31 08:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I was in the same situation. My ex wasnt younger though. We kept on taking breaks from each other. I began having doubts if he ever really loved me or not. It was never the same. We finally ended it for good after he started seeing someone else. Im glad he ended it cause I didnt have the guts too. Now I am in a wonderful relationship with this guy and happier then I ever had been in my life. I suggest having a heart to heart with this guy. If things doesnt chenge(which I dont think it will) you need to end it dfor your own sanity. It is not worth it.
Good luck!
2006-12-31 08:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is still having a hard time to deal with his parent's break up, even after the divorce is done. It takes time to heal after something like that. I would take some time, continue being his friend, and continue supporting him. Wait a couple of months and ask him about getting back together again, if he doesn't seem to be moving towards going back out, then it is time for you to move on. Because like you said, you cant sit around waiting for him.
2016-03-29 02:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear child , call it quits, it is over and has been ... u are both just scared to move on, but hey only by moving on can you meet the next gr8 person life has lined up 4 u to meet =]]
2006-12-31 08:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Zoen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to take that many breaks, then something is way wrong. if yall are relle in love, thaen this wouldnt happen. talk it out, but it prolly wont work out
2006-12-31 08:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaks mean he not happy , move on
2006-12-31 09:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋