I am 23 years old in a very commited loving relationship with my boyfriend who is 35 years old. We have been together for over a year and a 1/2 and we have had visions and are preparing to plan for a future together. He mentioned once before that he has a fear that I would leave him for someone else. Currently he is in the process of moving to a new home and he mentioned to me that whilst he is moving for the next few following weeks he mentioned he may be quite busy trying to organize everything and may not be able to call me. He asked me how he could keep a hold of me even while he gets busy with the move and everything. Now I never gave him any impression that I am seeking to be with anyone else, he is all that Ive ever wanted. Though he says that my age has never once crossed his mind he sees me as his woman not some 23 year old...do you think that perhaps maybe he thinks I may go after someone closer to my age?
2006-12-31 08:30:29 · 6 answers · asked by La Morenita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There have been times when i was scared my girl was gonna find someone better for her and leave me and no matter how many times she assured me that it will never happen that she only wants me in her life it still scares me. What causes this for most is just insecurities, they believe there is somebody better than them out there and that you will run the first chance you get. It has nothing to do with you, it has everything to do with love. He loves you so of course he's scared of losing you. You just have to reassure him he's all you'll ever need and eventually itll sink in.
2006-12-31 08:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't find the time during the move then why don't YOU find the time to be with him. Help him if you live close by. Be in his face. Prove to him that you want to be there for him and help him. If you can't do that then maybe you should tell him that certain days dinner will be at your house cause he won't really have time to cook and eat and move. It would be nice for him to stop by from work and eat. If both of you want him to stay that's your business. Maybe you could suggest going back with him to his new place and helping him. Or better yet, pack a picnic lunch and surprise him. Cooked food is always welcome. Go as far as silverware and glasses and even a folding table just in case all is still packed. If he sees what lengths you will go just for him then why would he think otherwise. Guys love to be waited on. I'm not saying candlelight but a decent meal would be nice. Do it maybe 2 or 3 times a week. If you stay in his face then he might get the hint that you want to be with him and that moving is not a good excuse. What's the worse that could happen? Try it. You might like it. He may love it and you even more for going out of your way.
2006-12-31 16:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your age is a problem, it sounds like. I think you have a mature guy who is trying to make sure you aren't concerned when he doesn't keep in touch with you for awhile while he's busy with the move. Sounds like he is really asking what could he do to reassure you that things are fine if he doesn't have as much time for you for awhile.
2006-12-31 16:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this case with your age difference, it doesn't matter because it's two adults. however, when it comes to your age difference, he's afraid that you will leave him, particularly for someone closer to your age. reassure him that you want him and only him, and try not to get worried if you can't get ahold of him. after all, he did inform you that he wasn't going to be able to keep in touch you often. tell him that when he's free to call you, but also consider IM and coming over to see him and maybe help him move.
2006-12-31 18:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be maybe hes just worried that you havent experienced the world and that you will find someone closer to your age it sounds like you love each other very much so hang in there and once you get married and stuff maybe he will realize that you want him
good luck
2006-12-31 16:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove you love him....i would say sneak on a intercom where he works(very hard) and then scream that you love him...yes hell be embaraced....but he would kno...or you can pay off the person at the intercom lol wat ever works...good luck
2006-12-31 16:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by then she killed my brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋