What I have to do to start a relationship with a girl. The first steps. The words that I'll tell her (I know, it's personal). My movements. How can I bring her close to me? How can I approach her? PLEASE HELP. I REALLY NEED IT. If the characters to work with aren't enough, please contact with me by sending an e-mail to: theofanis10@yahoo.gr
2006-12-31 08:29:42 · 4 answers · asked by !!R10!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Theo,
If the girl has shown an interest in you and she knows you like her:
Try asking her if she'll have a soda with you after school. If she agrees, meet her at an agreed upon time and place (don't be late)with a cheery "HELLO" and a big smile. If she's carrying stuff, you might want to help her carry so offer to while you take some of the stuff from her. If she's not carrying anything, you might stand alongside her and take her by the elbow and begin your walk to wherever. If you're driving, open her door for her. (Girls give points for being a gentleman & so do their moms!) Keep your conversation and your MPH "lite." It doesn't bother a girl to know that you're nervous either, so you could say so.
You can't rush anything, Theo, you know. Don't be shy about asking questions (not too personal) and please, please, please - learn how to both _listen and hear_ what she's saying. Girls can be shy too so you may have to ask 2-3 questions just to get the real answer. Above all, keep it all light and just be yourself without putting on any false face. You want her to get to know YOU and not some figment of imagination, right? Don't try to "buy" her attention (you can buy the soda)but do be polite yet assertive about your limits. Ask her about her likes and dislikes. She'll probably want to know yours, too so organize your thinking ahead of time so that you can confidently answer. If you let her do most of the talking about herself, she'll have a better impression of you. (Most people love having the attention). Girls today are more forward and she make take the initiative in most every situation. I'd allow her to, but if that's not really ok with you, you might suggest that you also like to participate in decision making.
It's nerve-wracking, I know, but after a few dates (soda sipping isn't considered a real date) you'll both come to understand each other a bit better and some of the tension will cool. Don't try to get into her pants right away. She'll tell you when's right and before that would be a mistake.
Good luck, Theo
2006-12-31 10:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first befriend someone in the crowd of people she hangs out with. then ask around and see how much info you can get on her like her favorite flower color and ect. but be suttle about the hole thing.and if she ever needs something get it for her like if she always wanted a pink watch buy it for her and tell her. well you always talk about and well i know you wanted it. and to be funny you could say. mostly i got it so you would shut up. make sure it is something she really likes or wants. thats just an example . if you need anymore help you can e-mail me or instant measage.me.
2006-12-31 16:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by ~**casandra**~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
words to say: exactly how u feel. u really like her and u would like to be with her....the sweeter the better.
movements/how to bring her close: slow careful steps that make her heart skip a beat. slowly touch her and pull her close to you. but make sure she can make the decision so if shes uncomfortable she can get out of it easy and move away if she doesnt feel right. whether she does or not isnt very important, but u dont want her to feel like she is forced. touch her lightly on her sides, lightly lift up her shirt just to her belly button and touch her stomach when hugging her from behind, and when hugging her while shes facing u, whisper u love her in her ear and lift her shirt up lightly to caress her back. do little things for her to make her feel special and beautiful. u'll find it steadily become easier to be urself around her and to do things around her as u naturally set boundaries for urself and test the waters.
and last but not least: goodluck
2006-12-31 16:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just walk up to her and ask her if she would like to have dinner and if she says yes then make it a candle lit dinner and give her a rose and compliment her on her features like her eyes and outfits
2006-12-31 16:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by ashtyn d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋