My boyfriend and I have been together for about 1 year and 3 months. Whilst we were 7 months in we realized that we have the atmost love for each other and began speaking on marriage in the near future and kids and so forth. Ever since then a few times for each month the topic of kids and marriage and cohabitating has sprung up here and there. Weeks ago he mentioned he already begun looking up rings and so forth.
Today we spoke on the phone and he came out and said "oh the bridal show is coming to town next month.......are we going?" and then I turned the question back around on him and then he turned it back on me and then I said "yes we are" and then he was like "REALLY??" whyyyyyy did he ask me then if he was going to react that way...but then he said why dont we go to the Cultural Bridal show when that comes around (which is in the summer of next year)...
What was that all about?
2006-12-31 08:27:45 · 10 answers · asked by La Morenita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
guys have funny ways of asking questions he probably just wanted to know how you were feeling and maybe hes wondering if its time that he poped the big question i wouldnt worry about it but i would be getting ready for the big question
good luck and congrats for the future
2006-12-31 08:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young love is so wonderful and confusing. If you've both been mentioning marriage for 6 months, it might be time to try to pin something more definite down. For instance, are you sure you want to marry this man? It sounds like it, so the question is, when is the best time? Are there educational issues or job issues that need to be dealt with first? You don't want to rush him or scare him off, but maybe you could very gently try to get more info out of him regarding his intentions. For instance, "Sweetie, I know we've tossed around the idea of marriage for awhile now, and I was wondering if you had any concrete ideas as to a time frame?" He just sounds like he needs some guidance and like he doesn't want to blow it with you, but is clueless. My husband was like that when we were dating, so I can understand that! He even said "What would you tell me if I proposed?" right before proposing, so he'd be sure of my answer if he did propose. I found that sooo funny!
2006-12-31 17:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but it's a guy thing. I mean, yeah, we do react unexpectedly, but it might have been a slight (and I use that sparingly) surprise. And he suggested going to another bridal show. Just be happy he wants to go to something like that at all. He's showing his love for you, even if it is a little obscure.
2006-12-31 16:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by spydogink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait...You're worried because he said "REALLY?" Did you forget to take your meds today?
Seriously, are you ready for marriage if you take offense at one word or one suggestion? Who cares if he wants to go to this bridal show or that bridal show?
The important part of being married is just that - BEING married. Not getting married. Getting married is just the beginning of it all. The beginning is never the most important part.
2006-12-31 16:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by Basiate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems as tho, he was feeling you out, on your thinking. And your reactions surprised him. From what you say, it further sounds as tho neither one of you are actually serious when you talk about such things. But rather simply bouncing off each other.
Has either one of you said point blank, I'd like to marry when.....
Or have children by the time I.........Are we really serious here?
Do we have a plan?
2006-12-31 16:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really donn't know but maybe it was to soon if u need a shoulder to cry on chat to me I willl be there for u because i have been in a problem like this before
2006-12-31 16:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GUYS HAVE LITTLE WAYS OF BREAKING UP THESE SPECIAL MOMENTS.MAYBE HE'S GETTING COLD FEETS.JUST SIT YOUR MAN DOWN & ASK HIM IF HE STILL WANTS THE MARRIAGE OR HE'LL RATHER WAIT.SOMETIMES PEOPLE RUSH INTO THINGS WITHOUT TALKING ABOUT THE WHOLE ISSUE.I'M SURE IF U TALK ABOUT IT EVERYTHING WILL BE OK.CHEER UP HONEY.
2006-12-31 17:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you have someone that loves you, and is ready to be with you. he may have a few kninks still, but you should know that you have a great man.
2006-12-31 16:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He just needs reassurance
2006-12-31 16:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by craptastic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's dragging his feet.
2006-12-31 16:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋